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writes:Me and my partner have a four year old daughter. Two years ago I found out she was setting another guy, this being bad enough, I then found out she was on a sex site posting pics of herself!!!! I confronted her, we split but I couldn't bear being away from my kid so we tried again, she promised it was a one off and nothing else happened! All was fine till I found out she was on this site again!!!! I want to leave but I want my kid with me!!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (11 March 2014):
 I would (like CaringGuy mentioned) talk to a lawyer (solicitor) and find out where you stand. ASAP.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2014): I have to warn you that if you and your girlfriend (I'm assuming you're not married?) disagree over who will have full custody, it can be a long, drawn-out legal battle that almost always favors the mother (at least here in the US). My mother was a completely unfit parent, she was schizophrenic and bipolar and couldn't even go grocery shopping, yet somehow it took my dad (an actually capable parent) SIX YEARS to get custody of my brothers and I. (Also, it probably cost hundreds of thousands of dollars).
So, try to come to an agreement outside of a courtroom if possible. Maybe you could figure out some kind of joint custody agreement. IMO, it is important for you to leave near your girlfriend (future ex) so that it will be easy for your daughter to spend time with both of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2014): Do you have proof that she was on those sex sites and when? Is there some way someone could check the site and see when her profile/s were up? Since you confronted her, you made it clear you were NOT OK with that. It's not safe (or a good example) for her to be doing that aroudn your daughter or for her to be exposed to that. I would honestly say that would be something Children's Services worthy. If she isn't ready to grow up and be a mom, then I see no reason why YOU can't have full custody.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2014): I agree with CaringGuy, you need to speak to a professional and come to some sort of arrangement with your partner involving your child.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (10 March 2014):
You need to speak to a solicitor asap. No one else is going to be able to give you better advice really. Sorry this has happened to you, but make sure you speak to someone who knows what they're talking about.
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