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writes: how do you tell your mom and dad that you want to move out or travel, especially when they are so possesive, and overprotective, AND THE ONLY child left at home? and the only way they are actually happy is when i'm around to make things peachy?I want to go overseas-UK, to travel, make friends, work, learn new things and be free, basically do what all the young adults are doing while travelling?I've got good opportunities for my future, working with my family, which I am, but I'm not happy.I want to leave for maybe a few months, a year. I have many friends there so, I wont be alone.My problem is that i do not know how to tell my parents without them breaking down and getting depressed. MY moms social life comes through me, as i take her out, we shop, eat out, and she doesn't have many friends, so If i leave i fear that she'll be all alone, and depressed, but that is not fair on me because i want to live, and travel, but i don't want to break her heart and for her to become despondent, and lock herself at home, my sisters live far away, so there are weeks even months that they don't see each oher, and when i leave, shes alone, and I cant bear to see her heart broken and know its my fault.my parents get along well, but they're not the kind to go out together. i'm the baby of the house so they are holding on to me and don't want to let me go.What can I do to make things easier and not have to go on the guilt trip and fear fot their happiness.thank you so much and I will appreciete all comments.
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reader, MTVTrueLife  +, writes (19 August 2008):
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (8 March 2006):
 Tell them you are going. You must cut the apron strings at some point. But how about teaching them to use your pc, so you can stay in contact.
Spread your wings and fly. You will come back a stronger and better person for it. If you live your life for them you will regret it and in a decade or two your relationship will have deteriorated so much you might as well ahve gone to live in timbuktoo!
Stay in touch with them, make them involved with calls and cards. And get your siblings to take some of the responsibilty for your olds as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2006): bun what she said... lolz sowwie no offence. if your are ready to leave home sit down and talk to both your mum and dad and explain to them that you will always be there son no matter where in the world you are, you will call and write and visit regulary so they know they will still be in contact with you and see you. if you cant tell them face to face write it down and tell them from your heart how you feel and how passionate you are about travelling and this is what you want to do invite them to come visit you when your away but dont just up and leave. show them pictures of where you want to go ( although the uk aint all dat as i live here lol) involve them in your plans so they feel like they are part of it.
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reader, Agony AUnt Hannah +, writes (8 March 2006):
 This is quite an easy thing to do. Tell your parents all the things that you just said and say you feel passionate about traveling and want to know more about the different cultures. Tell your parents that you will visit regulary and always only be a phone call or plane away. IF this doesn't work tell them that you understand that they want you to stay and say to them that you are old enough to make ure own decisions and leave. Say it nicely though and tell your parents that you love them and that you want them to be happy and want yourself to be happy too. Tell them nicely that you CANT BE THERE LITTLE BOY FOREVER.
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