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writes: I am 21 and have been in a serious but steady relationship for two years,we both live with our parents. I try to have an open relationship with my boyfriend and always tell him how i'm feeling and i feel he isn't giving this back in return,i hope i can trust him but he keeps giving me reasons to think otherwise such as always taking his phone with him anywhere he goes even the toilet!! and lying about having a drink when i can smell it on his breath! Anyway his phone bill came so i looked at the itomised calls and texts and found a number from a few weeks ago that i didn't recognise,all the times of the calls were late at night and some quite long phone calls,i rang the number and a girl answered, she wouldn't tell me her full name only her first name so i hung up but didn't tell her how or why i rang her number. I feel awful and guilty for even being suspicious in the first place as my boyfriend is genuinley a nice caring person and we get on fine, to all my friends we are known as the 'perfect' couple! I just don't know whether i am being paranoid or if he is being dodgy, i wish i'd never bothered looking now because i can't stop thinking about it and when i see him i wanna scream at him!! PLEASE HELP!!! I'm desperate! Anon XX
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reader, shania  +, writes (8 March 2006):
 Sounds like he is playing away.The fact that he takes his phone to the bathroom and late night phone calls to this woman doesnt sound too good.Im afraid you will have to confront him...and ask him who this woman is....he will probably give you some lies about her...but it will have to be down to you whether you believe him or not.If you desperately love him and you want to keep this relationship going then he will have to lay his cards on the table and give her up...trouble is...do you really want to be with a bare faced liar...who doesnt mind cheating on you?...i know what i would choose.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (8 March 2006):
 You are gonna toture yourself if you dont find out who she is. So you had better come clean that you have been snooping around and checking his phone.
This girl could be anyone, and by that I mean family, a one night stand, or just a friend, so I suggest you sit hi ass down and get talking to him. But like I said you will have to come clean because there is no other way to do this.
Good luck, you may need it.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2006): hey, sounds like and average guy always out doin something and then tries to covers it up. if you can smell the drink on his breathe but he doesnt want you to know then to me he could be either out with his friends or probally been drinking like budwiser or guinese but to them thats classed as not drinking as for the girl answering the fone, if you got the number call her back and be straight up to her as to why you have called her, ask her and confront him , if ya'll are seen as a "perfect " couple then he should be able to open up too you. a relationship is based on trust .. but on the other hand you have to have faith and trust in him for it to work give him the benifit of doubt. some guys just dont want us females to know exactly what they get up to during the day. sometimes its better not to look coz when you look you will keep looking till you find something which in your case you have. so like i suggested call her back and talk to her and confront him about it then make a judgement, follow your head not your heart.
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