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30-35,
*hivi
writes:Well, to start off. I would like to say that she does look at me an awful lot. Not to say she wouldnt be looking at anyone or anything. (As she is new to the job) But she tends to stare at me as we walk past eachother and she'd give quite a smile to top that off. And i'd smile back. In addition, I would like to mention she helps me an AWFUL lot. (or is just bored, I am a busboy at a diner, and she has started following me around a bit helping me with clean the tables.) Also, near the end of this day. She wanted me to STAY with her up near the register. (As she was a bit lonely apparently, and talking to adults might seem a bit strange, she seems quite young, at least 15, if not 16, and ah she is a hostess by the way.) To really top it off, as her mother does work at the diner. She introduced me to her."Hey _____! Come here! I want to introduce you to my mom"Just like that. Or similar. She is very nice, and does seem to have at least a minor attraction to me. (If not infatuated to be honest......) But, does she have an attraction for me? Or is she just lonely on the job and needs a friend to talk to? She does seem nice, and I might get her number to get to know her more, (Provided I don't get bombed by her mum), but I have been at the job for around 3 months now, her a couple of weeks, i'm well known for my orderliness, and all the people have a good view on me) but I wish an opinion first. Thank you all.and OH, I would like to know on how to approach her. As she does seem like a nice person to get to know. I wouldnt mind asking for her number to start off. But I would also like an opinion on how to approach her :) I might do it next week. But any ideas on how to break the barrier? And how to talk to her?Thanks again ^,^ :) Reply to this Question
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reader, victory202 +, writes (8 February 2011):
 Be yourself. You can approach her to tell her what a wonderful job you think she is doing at work. Remember she is new to the job and most people are very very friendly when they first start out at work because they want to make the best impression, so her being friendly to you dosent have to mean she likes you. Be careful that your supervisors dont think you two are being "too friendly" on the job. Also her mom is there so be respectful and careful, her mom will keep her eyes on you when she learns of your interest in her daughter. I dont think you should ask for her phone number. You could easily find out her schedule and wait outside and talk to her when she is off from work. Walk her to the bus or whatever. On the clock at work may not be the best place to talk to her, she is new and she needs to focus on her job. You need to ask if she has a boyfriend and you should not ask her that while you both are working. Invite her out some place like the park, or to a book store. What are your talents? Ask her to help you choose a valentines day gift for your mom. If you play in a band you could invite her to one of your shows. Guys probably hit on her all the time, be a little different so she remembers you even when she is not at work. Ask yourself, "What are my intentions towards her?". "Why do I want to get close to her?" If you understand why your doing what you do it will make you more confident. And by all means be confident! Talk to all of your female co-workers not just the one you like, because if things dont work out for you and her you still want to have friends at work...be friendly with everyone. Ask her what she does in her spare time, that way you will get and idea if she has time to hang out with you outside of work. Ask her about school, if she has had a job previously. You can ask her about her family life at home and if she has siblings or pets. Look her in the eye, give her plenty of time to talk about herself. Be confident, honest and happy! Dont expect anything from her. Remember you are pursuing her and she owes you nothing.
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