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writes:Sooo i met a guy at a street party a couple of days ago and I just felt something there already... Hes 20 and Im 18. we met two days after at a big party and spent the night together there where we kissed and talked and so on. He has left to where he live, 5 hours away from me by train. we had an msn date yesterday and talked for like 2 1/2 hours, about everything. Ive almost never felt like this about another guy. Hes just sweet and good looking and funny and has everything I like. Why does he have to live so faaaar away??? So now I want to know if this could work... In one hand Im scared because Ill miss him everytime he isnt with me! and in another hand I dont want to leave it as it is, because its turning into something good and sometimes you have to live in the moment right?
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reader, justwannabehappy +, writes (24 June 2012):
justwannabehappy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHmm true... Im confused I guess... He wrote me again and we talked about it and he said he wanted to come and so on... Im not sure what I feel, I just thnk that if we saw eachother again the feelings would come back and we could have a lot of fun... or maybe its stupid to continue this? Sometimes I feel hes still interested sometimes not. but its hard when you cant see eachother ...
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (21 June 2012):
 what will you do if you ask and he says yes and then you plan it and then he backs out?
clearly he's not as interested as you.
if you are not interested then why do you need to know what difference will it make?
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reader, justwannabehappy +, writes (20 June 2012):
justwannabehappy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answers! I know a LDR is far from possible at my age... but I still want to try to see if there still is something between like the strong connection at the beggining.... So we wrote messages to each other over the weekend and he asked me if we should skype after the soccer game, if he couldn't make it he wanted to on monday.. then we wrote about other stuff and sometimes if I hadn't answered he wrote again... But he hasn't written anything since sunday and I just don't get why?? He asked me if we should talk and then he's not even interested anymore or what? I haven't done anything wrong... But I didn't write to him.. My last "plan" is to ask him if we should figure out something about him coming to visit this summer. this way i'll get answers and if he can't/ doesn't want to then that's it! No more and then I'll have some closure... What do you think? Of course i'm going to ask in a nice way, not desperate. Even though I'm not that interested myself anymore, I want some answers and need to know if he wants. I still think we could have a lot of fun together though...
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (14 June 2012):
It can work but to be honest at your age and the distance it’s highly unlikely…
Long distance relationships need:
communication
trust
honesty
regularly scheduled visits
a plan to end the distance....
without any of those things all you have is a person you know.. .maybe a friend... NOT a romatic partner.
If he’s already not trying to find you all the time, that’s very telling… he’s probably aware that a 5 hour distance at your age is a bit much.
I just finished a year long LDR. We were two hours apart by car and saw each other every weekend after we got serious… usually Thursday night through Sunday night… so only 3 or 4 nights apart at a time… it was still very hard and stressful and we knew there was an end in sight.
There is no need to not be friendly. There is no need to get closure… you don’t really have anything you need closing… what you need to do is accept that at your age you met a guy had some fun and now will store it in FOND memories of being a teen…
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reader, justwannabehappy +, writes (14 June 2012):
justwannabehappy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo we talked everyday on facebook and skyped one more time and now it just seems it has died a bit. the last two days we haven't written as much and i'vel felt a bit like i was the one continuing the conversation.. not all the time though and when we skyped we didn't talk about him coming this summer only daily stuff and he had to go to bed after like 30 min... Today he hasn't written to me at all.. should I now stop writing to him? or wait a few days and then send him a message to ask if there still is something...?? i feel sad because we couldve had something great and im a person who doesn't let go of things inside that fast... at the same time I don't have those butterflies in my stomach anymore when i think of him and our time... there's only a bit of worry left, that he doesn't like and why isn't he writing and so on.. so now it's really about if I should try to get something out of it, let it go completely or get some closure...
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