| A
male
,
anonymous
writes: I'm a 22 year old gay college senior. I'm still in the closet and have never told anyone, but I've been really contemplating coming out lately. A good friend of mine since the beginning of college 4 years ago is openly gay. He is pretty much my best friend and we've never really discussed sexuality in detail. I knew he was gay as did everyone else and it didn't matter. For about the past year or maybe longer, though, I've been having more than just feelings of friendship for him. I've never dated or anything like that, so I really dont' know what to look for as far as signs that a guy is in to me, or even what constitutes "flirting" for gay men. But, my friend and I sometimes seem to be more "on the same level" than I am with my other (straight) friends. Sometimes the way he smiles at me just makes me feel like there's more to us than friendship. He always makes sure to say Hi to me when he comes past my room or anything like that, and its usually in a really cute way. There have been times in the past where I've felt like maybe there was some flirting going on, like he's hit me on the butt when behind me walking up the stairs with his keychain (as if to make me go faster). But like I said, I have no idea to look for, and I'm not even openly gay with him. I'm pretty sure that my friends have suspicions that I'm gay. Do you think its possible he has the same suspicions and is maybe feeling the same way for me as I am for him? how do i pick up on it? How do I know? I really want to come out to him, but I'm terrified that he won't have the same feelings for me and that it will make our friendship awkward. I don't want to risk our friendship at all, because he truly is one of my best friends in the world. I'm really confused. help me someone.
View related questions:
best friend, flirt Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): Sorry this wasn't answered sooner. DearCupid wasn't as well known and less people could answer questions.Your problems are probably long gone, but the best thing to do is just open out if you want to. Because he's gay so for one would understand how you feel, and if hes really your friend then he would understand. If he doesn't reciprecate - or however you spell it - don't worry about it, but at least its off your chest.Again your problems are probably long gone, so, sorry.
|
