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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I received a letter from exboyfriend yesterday. He lives in Canada and it a long distance relationship. He break up with me back in january because things were not going ok between us. It hurt me a lot because when it happen I wanted to spend my life with him.Now I have new boyfriend and I am happy. I think I have moved on but I think a lot about it yesterday when I read the letter. He didn't say anything about how he is doing. His sister was expecting a baby before. I was very excited but did not get to see her when she was born because we were not dating anymore. So sent me photographs of the baby which I thought he was very sweet. I am wondering how he is doing. He didn't say anything about how he is doing. He just give me the photos, tell me about the baby because he know I wanted to be there and said he hoped that me and my family and my pets are ok and so on...I understand right away that he did not talk about how he is doing because he did not want me to think about it or feel obligate to write him back. He was a very sweet man, very caring, he think a lot about what I was thinking and feeling and he always worried of hurting me. So I think that is why he write what he write.I think a lot about it yesterday and again today and I miss him. He is very caring and understands me very well. It would be nice to keep in contact but my friend tell me it is a bad idea to talk to exboyfriends. What do you think? I want to write. He not ask me to but what will he think if I do not?Maybe he send the photos because he still want to talk to me?
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reader, sharraie  +, writes (14 November 2008):
you did not mention how long you were with this ex boyfriend. To be even thinking about your ex, shows that you are not 100% happy with your new boyfriend, and that you feel that there is unfinished business between you and your ex. I would aire on the side of caution, as if he does want to talk to you, why not just pick up the phone, why go to the pretense of photos of his sisters baby as an excuse. Were you close to his sister. You could always try and write back thanking him for the photos and his letter and casually mention that you hope he is well and doing ok? If he replies you can then take it further. Mind though that you don't lose your current boyfriend, unless you are sure that he is not for you.
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