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anonymous
writes:Me and my best friend just recently confessed to each other and we went on a date yesterday. We have been seeing each other for almost a year now but yesterday was the first time we went on a date. We watched a movie at the mall then after the movie he told me that one of my female friends called him 10 times during the movie. As we were driving somewhere to eat, he called her to see what she wanted. When he called he put her on speaker for me to hear too and my friend said that she wanted to know if the three of us are going to hang out that day or tomorrow. Ever since she knew that I liked him, I felt that she was trying to make a move on him. It was 10 pm and I thought it was pretty obvious what she was trying to do. Now I want to keep her away from my boyfriend because from what I've seen her do, she tends to go after her friends' boyfriends just for the fun of hurting not only her friends but also the guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks this is my first time having a boyfriend and I don't know what to do. I only know that what she's doing isn't supposed to happen. I was thinking of breaking up the friendship but that might make things worse. I was also thinking about telling him myself to not associate with her but I don't want him to think that I'm an obsessive girlfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2009): Him not getting upset that she called him 10x in a short period is already setting a bad boundary on his part. That kind of obsessive behavior from another female should have been nipped in the bud immediately and he should have been angry and freaked out by that. I do think you have a reason to worry just because of that, your boyfriend doesn't seem to mind. I think it's also strange that you are her friend and even hang out with someone like this so you have some boundaries to set as well. I think you need to tell her straight up you don't appreciate her behavior and won't tolerate it and your boyfriend should not take her calls. Both of you are allowing this girl a lot of control and power and should make the decision to just cut her off.
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