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*orres7
writes:im going out with the same boy for three years he wants to have sex and im 13 and hes 15. im really stuck cuz i love him and i want him to be happy but im scared when i do it its gunna hurt and thats what im really scared of. plzz help me if you can Reply to this Question
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reader, lauren_jayne  +, writes (22 April 2010):
I lost my virginity around that age to. I don't regret it at all but I was definitely ready... and no one but you knows if you're ready. Anyways it did kinda hurt but if you just deal with the initial pain it will start to feel good afterwards.
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reader, insanely good +, writes (21 April 2010):
Never have sex with a guy so he will stay with u if ur not ready ur not ready yes itll hurt for the first time if the guy don't no Wat he's doing but if it takes sex to get love then u don't need that love
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reader, Msblessed +, writes (19 April 2010):
 Point blank: You shouldn't have sex with this boy to make HIM happy
Think about you. But no matter what age you are sex for the first time or maybe even the first couple of times is going to hurt. There's no getting around that. I don't think you should do that right now. But you'll do what you want anyway, just think about what everyone has said.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2010): AT 13? You are way too young to be having sex. Go swimming, ballet, surfing, movies, skating & have all the fun in the world. NO1 No!! Sex at this point.....
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (19 April 2010):
 What???? You started dating at 10 years old? Where the hell are your parents??????
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reader, sunandstars  +, writes (19 April 2010):
I think you're too young to have sex personally, and you shouldn't have sex to make him happy. He is older than you, so may be ready, but at your age I don't think you are. You may think you love him but considering you've been 'together' since you were ten, there's not much chance he's the right person for you at such a young age and that you are in a serious relationship. This is only my opinion however, and it is completely your own choice, you may both be ready, I don't know. I hope I've helped you. Love sunandstars x
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (19 April 2010):
 No,no, and emphatically no. Don't do it. You don't have sex "to make somebody happy ", you have sex to make yourself happy. And you can be happy with your sex life when YOU feel ready to have a sex life, which is clearly not your case yet, as it's clearly shown by your misgivings and your fear that sex may be painful.
Btw for most women the pain of first sexual intercourse is really minimal and very bearable, but that's not the point ;the point is that when you are really really ready ,psychologically ,emotionally and physically, you don't even care about possibly feeling pain .
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