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writes:im 24 and pregnant. Ive been in love wit the same man since i was 18 and he def isnt in love wit me. He has another gf who ive seen he loves yet we still sleep together ive not told him yet. We have a bad past ive previously told his current gf we were still sleeping together and she stayed wit him but yet was paranoid about me with good reason ive had one abortion and 2 miscarriages from him over 6 years and i love him so much but he doesnt love me but i so want his baby plus my baby. I want this baby yet im scared he will hate me for this and wont be there for the baby and in scared about it as i think ill be a single mum plus my family hate him but will support me. I want this baby please help ladies any advice! gave him dvd to u!have
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (27 December 2009):
 Sometimes I think we should lock women up from birth to stop them seeing any romantic movie, read any romance novel until they are of a sensible age. 60+ or something.
Love should never be used as an excuse for your messed up live.
Whenever there is a story that contains the sentence "but I love him so much" you know you are going to read a post by a woman who refuses to take any responsibility for her own happiness/actions.
And frankly, I don't think this woman can change at this point in time. There is not a hint of self-reflection in the post. No "I love him so much BUT perhaps that is not enough".
So go on, be a single mum with the occasional fuck. Come back in decade or so when you are still single and miserable and being used. As long as you say "but I love him so much" that is your role in life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2009): I've been in this situation with an ex who fell out of love with me and got in to a relationship with someone else, but we continued our sexual relationship. I thought i could win him back that way, i got pregnant and the moment i did he disap. peared stopped answering my calls and did everything to make me look like a liar when his girlfriend found out. I had an abortion in fear that i would be a single mom too Now 2 years later im married and pregnant but i regret getting rid of my baby for such selfish reasons. If you want this baby have it and it sounds to me like you have support of your family i was only 18 when i had my abortion and my family wouldnt have helped me out your 24 and probably a lot more stable than i was, You can do this have your baby and love your baby and yourself and then forget about him,tell him about the pregnancy if he decides not to be apart of the childs life take him to court for child support and severe your ties of the heart.Even if he does enter this childs He will never love you back,it is not in his intentions at all, it will always be the same old run around, i can guarantee it, but if you really want this baby love this baby for you NOT him be the best mother you can be and move on from that scum.
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reader, meg2989  +, writes (27 December 2009):
 First of all you probably shouldn't have had sex with him during the time he had a girlfriend, I'm sure you know that now, but it was a good thing you told her. I can honestly say that he most likely wouldn't stay with you whether you had this baby or not. He will probably be upset if you keep it and he probably wont be there for the baby. However you need to do what you feel is right. But don't do it because you want HIS baby, do it because you want the baby thats inside you because its yours. I hope you can understand what I mean. It sounds to me like you are almost too infatuated with this man. I wish you the best of luck, you are definitly in a tight spot.
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