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I want to give myself the same pain he said I caused him!

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Question - (24 November 2012) 2 Answers - (Newest, 24 November 2012)
A female Ireland age 26-29, anonymous writes:

My friend and I had this experience with this older man and at first he showed me attention, etc. but once he saw my friend he completely forgot about me and started being rude to me and then one time he said he almost died and blamed it on me and I've gotten so upset that I'd cry, cut myself and try to feel as much pain as I've supposedly gave to him yet my friend knows the whole story and is still messaging him.

She has been my best friend for so long but I just don't know what to do about the whole thing.

Can someone please give me some advice?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2012):

How much older than you is he? I just got this image in my head of an older creep driving past drooling at two teenage girls and nearly crashing his car and killing himself lol...

Forgive me.

On a serious note, self harm (from what I understand) is applied when a person themselves either feels they deserve punishing, or they are trying to relive some deep inner emotional pain, so they release it in the form of physical pain. No guy is worth feeling that bad about, trust me.

Sorry I can't offer more advice, but the info you gave was limited.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (24 November 2012):

Honeypie agony auntHoney, stop being so dramatic.

There is no need for cutting yourself over a dude, EVER and I seriously doubt you caused him that much pain if he is chasing after your friend.

Take a break from this "friend" let her find out for herself that this guy is bad news.

And stop listening to this guy as well. You need to learn to LOOK at people's actions don't just trust their words. A guy who is broken hearted isn't going to chase a girl in the next heartbeat, and certainly not the friend of the girl he claimed hurt him.

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