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writes:im 5wks pregnant and want to give my baby to a couple i know personally who cant have children of their own - is this possible? i was going to tell the biological father that i aborted the child. can i leave the fathers name blank on he birth certificate. could they legally adopt the baby? or if not could i say it was my friends partners child and put him on the birth certificate soo he would have parental rights and then my friend adopt? could the bioloical demand a dna test if he was to find out and if soo what rights would he have - could he take the baby away from them? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): If the couple you have found changes their mind, we'd be happy to help :) Amy
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (10 November 2007):
 Hi.
As U.K. Law stands if you do not want to put father name on a birth certificate you do not HAVE TO, our USA friend has different laws than ours, if you are giving your baby to another couple it would be best for you to go through some form of adoption with the couple involved.
You can tell the farther any thing you like does not matter 9 tenths of the law is on the mothers side, therefore you can do anything you want with your baby, but for your own safety take legal advise, and state you dont know who the farther is, then at a later if he ask for a DNA, test the courts will probably refuse on the grounds that you dont think he is, his word against yours.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2007): this sounds like you are a good hearted person, and it sounds like the ideal solution. but will you get caught? think this out carefully. by the way you are not being horrible,you are being practical. good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2007): You would be a horrible person if you did this. If your boyfriend wants this baby he has the right to the baby. If he doesn't want the baby too then maybe you could look into doing this. You first need to talk to him about it.
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reader, lilgirly  +, writes (10 November 2007):
 hey,
your baby has the right to know who are his parents!
it would be really hard to take that his real parents gave him up!
and he isn't only your baby ,he is the father's baby as well so in this kind of desicion you have to talk to the father because no matter how much you try to cover the truth it will be shown one day!
you seem like a person with a very big heart to give up your baby, but i know that in the futur you will always regret it!
the couple can adopt an orphan!
so i really think you shouldn't do it , i don't think it is legal!
and if you are still thinking about doing it , well you have to talk to the biological father....
good luck and keep us updated byeXXX
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reader, rcn  +, writes (10 November 2007):
 I can't and refuse to go into too much detail. Reason being, your possible actions is fraud. You don't want to do what you listed. If you got away with it, and the truth came out later, you can spend real jail time for doing something like this.
You're the one who had sex. There's a child now coming who didn't ask to be here. Both biological parents have the right to know what's going on. He may find adoption is a good idea, then he can legally sign his end to get it done.
Yes ANYTHING COMMITTED WITH INTENT TO COMMIT FRAUD CAN BE REVERSED. HE CAN REQUEST A PATERNITY TEST, and if the adoption is final, the judge can reverse it as if it never happened, then issue a warrant for your arrest.
Do what's right. A child is not a game. Laws are set to protect the rights of children, violate those right and if you end up in jail then you think every day how this irresponsible behavior, and lack of any caring or love for this child ended up putting you where you are. Now since you and your friends partner aren't married, they may order a verification of paternity before the adoption. If not and you put there name on it, when you get arrested they'll issue a warrant for them also for being an accessory to this illegal act.
Do what's right by this child, or when the child's born ask them to tie them tubes so you won't screw up anyone else's life.
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