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writes:AHH!, i need help on this one, my stepdad is becoming uncontrolable, well he and my mum got married about 3 years ago now, they dont have any kids together but he has ruined my ife so far.wen i was just 12 he strangled my brother and he got arrested but the case was dropped, he went to hit my sister wen i was 13, and now im 15 and he is starting on me, i really want to get rid of him, he causes so much trouble at home, his big problem is he drinks but he cant handle it, and everytime he drinks he starts on me, my mum totaly understands why i am frustrated with the whole situation. my sister and brother hate him, my mum is losing love for him and most of my family that we talk to doesnt like him because of the past. i can ganruntee there is an argument in the house every night!please what can i do to get rid of him! ? xthankyou for all your answers. x Reply to this Question
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reader, Verenice  +, writes (13 August 2010):
what you could do is stay out of the house from 7:00am or when you wake up to 10:00 but tell your mom were your going or sleep at a friends house for 2 days or how many days you want!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2009): honey i fill for u my step dad left us three times with no money he took my moms car that had all her checks in it and we found the car at his roomates house and now he want to come back and him and my mom r always fighting so the solution is to leave him while he is at work pack everything up and leave dont come back for any thing good luck
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (11 July 2009):
 As you are in the UK, you need to identify your local social services department and call them to report the child abuse. As your step father has been arrested for assault, social services may be able to see this in the searches they will do as part of routine child protection investigations. The aim of social services will be to work with the family to resolve the violence - this may involve your step father leaving the house. You can also call the police as this man has assaulted you. An injunction can be served that will keep him away from you and your family. I think you have to speak out and get help before this situation escalates to something even more serious - your mother does not seem willing to take appropriate action on her own and it may require professional help to put things right in your family. If he is abusing the children, she maybe scared of him and there maybe domestic violence too. Call Childline, call the nspcc, call social services or call the police and be sure to get the help you need.
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reader, betty_black +, writes (10 July 2009):
 Well i was in the same situation, i was six when my stepdad started hitting me and it was a pretty regular thing. I called the police on him one night at your age and thats when my mum left him, then and there, and didnt turn back. I tried talking to my mum many times about it in the years previous but it didnt do anything, it didnt seem to go in. Maybe you should give it a shot, and if she doesnt leave him, the next time he does something inform the police. They dont do anything, granted, but it may shock her into realisation. Im sorry to say it but you cant make her leave him, its her decision. You can try pushing her in that way, letting her know how much it upsets you, but you cant force her. Shes probably pretty scared of the bastard too. Theres not alot more i can advice really, other than i know its tough but sooner or later youll be free from the fucker. I wish you all the best.
Oh and you can try ringing NSPCC im not sure how much they can do but you can give it a shot!
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