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writes: background: My boyfriend and I have dated since June 2001, when I was 16 and he was 19 years old. We've changed and grown and through it all we've managed to have our love grow and change in turn. Albeit many ups and downs, we are still wonderfully happy and in love after over 4 years of dating.situation: Now he's 23 and I'm 21. We're seniors in college and I desperately want to get married. I'm so in love with him and I want this so bad. I know he wants to get married too, but he always says "later" or "it will come". The thing is, he's a pretty conservative guy when it comes to relationships and he wants to save money and for us to finish school. The thing is, he already has bought a condo and pays a monthly mortgage - something I feel I could help him with. He lives with his sister in the condo, but she barely pays anything.MAIN QUESTION (if you want to skip the above):All this stuff is not important to me - I just want to BE with him, spend nights in bed together laughing, or simply having dinner and watching TV together. To me, those little moments are the best of my life. I'm tired of living separate lives in separate apartments and without a formal committment to show. I've told him this and he keeps saying "later". Should I just leave it alone until he's ready? Sometimes I try but my feelings about marriage keep coming back. I just end up hurting myself by letting it get to me. Then I mention it and he turns me down. I don't need a big parade for a marriage and proposal. I just need him. How do I get him to see things my way?
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reader, becky05 +, writes (29 July 2005):
Even though you have been going out together for a while, you are both still quite young to get married (by today's standards). If he says later then he probably just wants to wait until you are both older and have lived your lives a bit before settling down. I think he is quite sensible to not want to rush things.
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reader, Mizz-Experienced +, writes (28 July 2005):
If your man and you both want to get married then maybe he wants to marry someone else, not you. When he says later maybe he means later on in his life
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