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writes: Hi all- Hope you can help me. The last time I was on here I asked a question about a girl I liked, a girl who I started seeing and sleeping with and a girl (aged 18) who I thought I was falling in love with. With me being such a 'softie' and for feeling that she felt the same I went out and bought an engagement ring because I was sure of how I felt. I told one person - my mate - that I had bought the ring worth £1395 and told him I was gonna propose to her on her birthday. A week after - the txts, calls and seeing each other stopped - she was with my mate. (now both ex mates)!Anyway since then (I'm 20 by the way) I have met this girl online - she is 16, 17 in 2 months time - not that I believe that age really matters. I've never been confident with the ladies and that's why it really hurt when my mate and my ex did what they did. This girl and me have been talking for about 6 weeks now and are arranging to meet in Cardiff for our first date. I'm thinking of buying her a me 2 u bear and some flowers. I know it might sound stupid, but I've already begun to fall for her, and I'm already thinking about how I'd feel if things didn't work out. I want her to see how special she is, but I'm scared of making a fool of myself again... help!
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reader, becky05 +, writes (1 August 2005):
Why do you keep rushing into things?
Take things slower and make the effort to really get to know people before you decide whether you love them or not.
If you continue to wear your heart on your sleeve people will continue to take advantage of you. (sad but true)
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (30 July 2005):
 First of all...as hard as it is going to be..you have to forgive your mates and let go. It makes no sense going into a relationship with former thoughts and well...for want of a better word..baggage. You need to let that crap go. Think of it as there loss. Although I don't know you I think that personally you were a tad bit young to be engaged the last time.
Now for this girl that you met online. No age is not a problem. Just take your time...nothing is wrong with taking some flowers but the bear is a bit much for a first meeting I think. If you know you are already falling for her, don't think ahead as to what may or may not happen. YOu won't enjoy what is in the present. YOu may be missing out on the relationship of a lifetime if you think about all the bad things that could happen. Be positive. Enjoy being in love. Everybody in the world at some point in time has made a fool of themselves in love...you won't be the first and you most definitely be the last. Ejoy life buddy...live laugh and learn...but most of all love.
Take care...ana
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