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writes:I been with my girlfriend for a very long time and we both are thinking about marriage. We have everything we want in one another. I just have question if everything you and your girlfriend did sexually was both of your guys first besides a a brief sexual act that only lasted a minute or two between your girlfriend and another man when you guys had stopped talking and taken a 3 month break because I chose to stop talking to her. And she ended up having intercourse for a minute or so and told the man to stop and nothing else happened. No oral anal involved or anything. Would you let this bother you? Reply to this Question
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (7 April 2011):
This problem (she being sexual during the break) is as big as you let it to be. A lot of couples go through cheating (proper cheating, not like this) and then they cope with that and go on. Other couples just can't get over things like this. So if you think you can't handle this now or you won't be able to handle it in the future, it is better to break up now so you and her can move on. Without more suffering.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe's feels more guilty then me you don't understand se came back to me and cried I think I'm going to break up with her why did it have to be like this I love her more than anything but at the end you can't change the past so it is what it is
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reader, Capri2 +, writes (7 April 2011):
Since it was "your break" she was in her own right to have sex. You can't even argue it was planned before hand.But in the end it doesn't even matter. The question here is are YOU going to let this bother you?If you can't handle this you will end up suffering a lot. And we don't know if you can handle it.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (7 April 2011):
At the end of the day, you were on a break. She has done nothing wrong. Live with it.
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reader, Philips +, writes (7 April 2011):
 You felt it would be good to break-up. So now here's the conclusion. She had sex or almost.I would be bothered but i can't deny the fact that she had the right to do it, because you took a break from the relationship. So you have a share of the blame,( if you chose to blame her).The fact is she had the right to do whatever she wanted to during her break. However, she was mature enough to tell you what happened.
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (7 April 2011):
So this girl had sex with someone else whilst you were on a break which you had asked for because you stopped speaking to her?
Of course this is going to bother you, she slept with someone else! You wouldn't have emotions if it didn't.
If you want the relationship to work you should probably layoff the talk of marriage and just spend lots of quality time together and see how things go. Maybe you will both move on from what happened, or maybe what happened will end up breaking you guys up. It's not going to happen over night, and it might end up that it's not worth the effort. You also need to get over what she did, or she'll end up resenting you.
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