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writes:I have been in a troubled relationship and noticed it morewhen I started developing a crush on my hairdresser - single parent. His dad died of prostrate cancer. It never went anywhere the crush I believe was two ways as I could tell by the way he looked at me and tried to avoid me. His sister and I have been getting close.I would like to get closer to this guy as a friend but I am trying to sort out my current relationship. I do not want him to feel that I am trying to hit on him as he has felt this before when I made an enquiry about something else.How can I be friends?Any comments appreciated
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry everyone, I missed out a bit. His sister a who also works part time at the hairdressers has been trying to matchmake.
I was browsing the internet and looked him up out of curiosity last night as I know he is on Facebook. I have not friend requested. I also came across an article ont he internet that was in the Guardian about him and the fact that Afro/Caribbean men do not realise that they are at high risk of prostrate cancer and the article went on to talk about how he has been diagnose with the early syptoms at the age of 40, he is now 45.
this is what I meant when I said I did not want to feel sorry for him but rather be a friend.
I can always tell when someone like me by the way they look at me and their general body language.
I was wondering how can I approach hime. Obvopisly I will leave what I have found out to myself as I am sure he does not want to be reminded. He hair dresses p/t and works as a teacher as I do full time.
Thanks for your time.
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reader, 48years +, writes (12 September 2009):
 Hi Honey, I'm glad you can recognize a crush for what it really is - a fantasy.
He probably sees hundreds of lonely women every month, and please remember that hairdressers work for tips and that their concern over you may be just a professional courtesy. If he tries to avoid you, perhaps there's a reason?
You may be going through a tough time right now, and your perceptions may be colored by the fantasy of the hairdresser. Many women make this mistake, and fall for a counsellor or caregiver. Also, don't look for a new romance until you're free of your old one.
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reader, taina1980  +, writes (12 September 2009):
A STRAIGHT MALE HAIR DRESSER! Wow never seen one of those. Just converse with him on a friendship level. Im pretty sure he will know your intentions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2009): I am sorry, I couldn't understand anything. What does his dad death has to do w/ anything? What troubled relationship are you talking about? Why do you have to sort it out if you want to become friends with your guy?if he is avoiding you how is it you understand he is interested?I read it 20 times, I can't understand what you mean. You are friends w/his sister, what does it have to do w/ your guy?You really need to be more clear and give more info.
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