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writes:please help me i dont no what to do.I lost my virginity to a boy when i was just 13. i new him as he only lives round the corner from me and have liked him 4 ages .. 3 years later we got together we was in a seriouse relationship. But recently he told me he didnt no what he wanted anymore and i havent spoke 2 him for weeks. i really love him and cant stop thinking about him. i really want to get back with him but i dont want to go crawling back incase i get rejected i just dont no what to do anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): It's better to go through with life knowing, than not knowing.
Maybe he needs some space because of an important thing. or maybe he's scared of losing you. Just let him be for a couple of days. although i don't believe in girl looking for a guy, what i think you should do is talk to him. be nice and gentle, trying not to let the fact that you're scared of rejection show. tell him exactly how you feel and that you'd like to know how he feels. be honest and thorough. but dont let any fear show.
i was scared when my boyfriend got distand, although we'd never had sex. i did exactly what i'm telling you, he said he didn't doubt our relationship, but was going through a rough patch. and we've been closer than ever in our past months.
the best advice is to ask and know. listen to your heart, not your head.
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reader, Secret Teller  +, writes (14 July 2008):
 if he says he doesn't know what he wants sometimes don't mean that, he might just be scared, he might think he's falling in love to fast. talk to him about the problem tell him you need some info. you deserve a anwser. tell him you want to be with him and only him, he might have trust issues.
good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): Just keep on doing what you are doing and give him his space. If you do see him, be friendly, but don't run and jump on him. He may be going through something right now...try to give him the benifit of the doubt...But don't put your life on hold, if you meet someone, go out and have fun. Best of luck Chick-A-Dee
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (14 July 2008):
 Think about this. Are you willing to risk not knowing if this guy wants you just because you're afraid of rejection? You don't even know if he'll reject you or not and you never will if you never ask him.
Now what are you going to lose if he does reject you? You may think, for now, that you will lose the love of your life. But really, he will not be thinking the same (if he does this). I have always thougt that things happen for a reason, but it's our job to learn from this experiences and their meaning for us. If he does reject you, learn what went wrong with the relationship and try to not commit the same mistakes or learn to get away from guys like him. And who knows, probably he wasn't the one and in the future you will find that one guy that will love you with all his heart, but the only reason I think you think you love him so much is because you gave him your virginity. Now, I'm thinking too far ahead, but just remember that there's a 50% chance that this will happen.
Now, if he asks you to come back to his life, then you would be happy to have asked him. If you come back to him, then try to keep the relationship a happy one. Listen and understand him and be a great girlfriend with him.
Listen to the other aunties, probably they have a better advice than this and whatever you decide to do, I hope it was the right thing. And whatever results happen, may the be for the best.
Keep us informed.
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