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writes: I left my son's father in January b/c we were having problems and I thought we needed some time apart. Then it came out where he slept with some other girls. Now we want to get back together. I came over this week so we could talk snd try to work some things out. The main thing is that he sells drugs and he up and leaves when he gets a call. Then I met a girl who knew some connections. So I introduced them but now she comes over a lot and she won't talk to him in front of me and I think something might be going on. I don't trust her or him together alone. I need help on what to do.....PLEASE. Is it worth me coming back to him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2006): I don't even know where to start. If you are WITH a drug dealer, and he gets arrested...and you are there you will be arrested too. What happens to your child? Don't assume he will go with other relatives. That rarely happens especially in that moment. He'll be put in a foster home. Not that a foster home sounds like it would be much worse than this situation and in some cases probably better. I hope you'll seriously reconsider this issue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2005): I agree 100%. My ex and I were together almost a year. I knew he used to sell at one point, but I knew when we started talking to was not. And the whole time we were together he didn't sell, or do drugs, but the day after we broke up, he started again, and it broke my heart. He promised me he'd never start again, but I knew the man that could get a real job, do real things, and make legitimate money. When we talked about getting back together, I told him I wouldn't if he still did that stuff, and he doesn't want to quit, so I told him I couldn't get back with him. All it takes is him riding in your car with you, or you with him in his car, and your child, and getting pulled over.. WOW, that wont be good at all. Or being at his house. The man I'm in love with, my ex.. I hang out with him, I chill at his house, and I'd do anything for him, but I would NEVER get back with him until he quits the things he's doing. I cry myself to sleep, I'm heartbroken, and I miss him more than anything. Not the man I see now, but the man I knew and fell in love with. He has changed so much since he started doing all that stuff. Another thing, if he's cheated on you before, and you know about it and take him back, he'll see that you're weak and won't do anything if he does it again. You're setting yourself up to get hurt again. It's not worth it. Go find yourself a great man, and find your child a father that will love him and shower him with good things, not bad!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2005): Relationships are built on Trust, if you don't trust him, you shouldnt be having a relationship. You can do a lot better! Dan, 12
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (30 April 2005):
 Please say you're only kidding about wanting to get back with this guy!Your son should be your most important consideration and you should not be exposing him to the lives of drug-dealers! You should stay away from your ex. Probably the smartest thing you ever did with your ex was to leave him. Now, please don't make the same mistake twice.Think about your ex's pedigree objectively, as if you were about to introduce him to your kindergarten teacher: 'This is Jim. He sells drugs and slept with a bunch of other girls. Now I think he's also up to something with a girl with drug connections. We're thinking of getting back together.' This IS NOT GOOD. You and your son need to stay away from people like your ex.You can do better. Really. You can. A sage once said "A man is judged by the company he keeps". Never so true as when you're talking about small-time drug dealers. If you hang around with people like that, others are going to assume you're one of them. It's going to reflect badly on your child and quite possibly, introduce the idea to him that doing drugs is normal and harmless.Please don't go back to your ex!
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