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writes:I feel like i will never get a first kiss. I want to find out how to get a guy. i mean i just want like a person who i will always feel safe with. im 14 and still havent hooked up with anyone which is pretty pathetic. please don't tell me im too young because those are your views, and even if so it is my decision to make. thank you, and please if you are not going to answer my question, please dont answer at all. Reply to this Question
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reader, r_a_w_r1645 +, writes (10 January 2010):
 itts okay. im 14 too. i havent had my first kiss yet either. or a boyfriend. and im good looking too. i think its just becuz im soooo shy that i never talk to guys outside of school. like these guys will chek me out and show interest yet im too scared to talk to them. but. hmmmm. i dont no what to tell u. just be urself and sooner er later someone will show up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2010): Well, I'm 17 and have never been kissed or hooked up with anyone. It doesn't make me a worse person than those who do hook up. I've had plenty of offers of kisses and much more from boys who I would class more as my friends and I'm glad I gently let them down. Why? Because they are fuelled up on testosterone - they only care about relieving their bodily desires - they don't genuinely CARE about me! Seriously, wait for the guy who isn't an immature git and who asks you about you. Thats what I'm going to do. Good luck!
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reader, Sarah2485  +, writes (10 January 2010):
 i eco what caring guy said.. i was nearly 18 when i had my first kiss... and had my first boyfriend (who turned out to be a looser and i wish i hadnt of wasted my time with him) and like you i felt everyone had a bf and had had thier first kiss and thats probably why i eventually decided to go out with this lad.. dont just go out with the first person that shows u some attention.. get to know them see if YOU like them. You are just as likely to find someone when you are not looking... good luck x
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reader, FrozenLullaby +, writes (10 January 2010):
Well, I hate to have to say that, but you definitely are still young. I had my first kiss at 17, does that make me pathetic? Yes, back when I was 14, it seemed like everyone was "hooking up" with someone or the other, and I felt left out, but in the end I was glad I waited for the right guy to come along.
You still have way too much time on your hands to have your first kiss, so there's about zero chance you'll never get it. Worry if you're 30 and still haven't had your first kiss. There's no way someone can tell you where to find that special someone, he will just come along like all things in life do. If we all knew where and how exactly we would find the one to have our first kiss with, life would be much more less exciting. The easiest way, of course, to have your first kiss, is to hook up with a random guy at a party. I know some of my friends did that, but ended up regretting it. You wouldn't want that now, do you? So, just wait for the right one, when he does come along, you'll know. Just be sure that everyone gets their first kiss sometime, and whether it's sooner or later doesn't matter as much as today's society makes it look like.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (10 January 2010):
 wow you seem like you kno what you want and i agree, because im sure you have heard it all before you just want to kno how to get a bf. well im a guy so i think i can help, But first let me say your not pathetic this no specific age to start dating you start when you feel ready. Society puts alot of pressure on people its like some rule that you just have a bf or gf or something and your wierd or abnormal if you dont, truth is everyone knows relationships just happen you get lucky.
OK your 14 it will be tough because boys your age generally dont have the emotional fortitude nor the wisdom to deal with a girl your age plus your in HS there are hundreds of other girls with raging hormones, (I honestly cant understand how this became a commonly accepted word) any who theese other girls will be grabbing the guys attention, you need to stand out a bit be more agressive boys your age can be a bit shy, i would suggest taking some initiative, if you see a guy you like go for it tell him you think hes funny and would like to get to kno him better, Just think like a girl your born with the uncanny ability to get the guy. good luck
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (10 January 2010):
Slow down! I didn't have my first kiss or girlfriend until I was nearly 17. I know how you feel. It can be a bit painful thinking that you're behind everyone else, and maybe you feel like it won't happen. But it will. Thing is, I'm not saying you're too young (you're not for a boyfriend and a kiss), but I am saying that if you come across as worried about never getting a first kiss, you might attract the wrong guy. That last thing you need is a bad guy latching onto you and using you. Bad men are always attracted to women who come across as underconfident. And you're coming across as a bit underconfident. Have confidence in yourself, make sure you're speaking to guys so you understand us, and continue to focus on your life. Your Mr Right is out there.
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