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anonymous
writes:Hello! I'm 22 and I'm a quite attractive girl. I have a boyfriend for about 3 years now and we love each other and our sex life is pretty good. Despite all that I sometimes feel the need to masturbate watching porn, thing which I don't find very alarming. The alarming thing is that every time I finish, I start crying with sadness because I look at the girls in the porn movies and I kinda' wanna be like them.I don't wanna be a pornstar or something, but I want to express my sexuality to other people and feel good about this...even if I show it to my boyfriend.In the past,before dating him,I was kinda' naughty and I hooked up with some guys,had great sex and great adventures. But now it's not the same. What do you think is the problem? What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2011): Hey! it's me,who wrote the question.Thanks very much for the advices,and I really agree with you,cause overall,I always was attracted by rough sex,and I had threesomes,but not with my actual boyfriend.I think he would like that too,but he is trying to hyde that part of him to me,I don't understant why because he's not shy and we share everything else...anyway...I told him a couple times to be rough...but he's not.he's just so sentimental...and i just want him sometimes to take me and fuck me...well...I'll see what happens...thanks again guys.
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reader, Itsjustflirting  +, writes (5 January 2011):
 When you are masterbating to porn, are you doing this with him? Or by yourself?
Why not let him watch you? Maybe have him record you and make your own mini porn. Even if you just delete it afterwards. Maybe see about binging someone else in with you and your b/f, just to watch you guys. There is lots of voyeurs out there that love to just watch.
It almost sounds like you might be getting turned on by the exhbitionist part of porn. You want to be the girl being watched and responsible for turning people on.
There is local masterbation groups all over, where you can be with other people. You or they do not have to touch others. You can watch or be watched.
These are just a couple ideas they might help you out a bit to let you express yourself more to people in a safe enviroment.
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reader, 3000AD  +, writes (5 January 2011):
It sounds to me like you want to spice things up with your boyfriend in the bedroom. Maybe the next time you both are "making love", ask him to be rough... or you know what I mean.. to take another personality (role play). Or maybe if you are both at a party, take him to the toilet or a room and "make love"(...)
You just have to ask him to be more adventurous with you, but as long as you don't suggest it (in the moment) he won't think of it himself.
Good Luck!
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