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*haashiie
writes:I just graduated from college and was in class with a guy I was attracted to all semester. I was too shy to flirt with him publicly in a classroom like that, and he seemed very reserved as well. We did talk maybe two or three times before class started about our reading assignment or something neutral, and I can't even remember who initiated the conversations. Now that I have just graduated I will never see him again unless I tell him that I want to (he still has another year of school). He also lives about 2 hours away and is probably home for the summer. I added him on Facebook Friday night and he accepted the request about an hour later, but I'm a bit nervous to send him a message professing my feelings especially since he's probably back home. I've had advice from a lot of friends to just message him and ask him how he's been and to tell him how I feel, but I am nervous because I was in a relationship that began in high school and have not entered the dating game again just yet and I don't know the rules, really. Should I tell him my feelings right out, should I just ask him how he's doing, and should I do it in a private message or on his wall for everyone to see if I'm just going to ask him how he's doing? I think it would be strange to ask how he's doing publicly on his wall then when he answers switch it right to messages. I just feel so confused and inept :P Like I said, he was very reserved but seemed very intelligent and, as far as I could tell, friendly. I just don't want to seem like a weirdo. I just need a bit of advice from outside parties before bolstering the courage to do this. Thanks:)
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (3 June 2011):
 I'd keep it "private", sooner or later one of you will suggest you talk on the phone or meet up, hopefully. Nothing wrong in taking it a little slow either, so take the time t ask him question you really want him to answer :) and good luck.
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reader, shaashiie +, writes (3 June 2011):
shaashiie is verified as being by the original poster of the question hey honeypie we are still conversing back and forth just simple friendly questions like he asked me what i was studying in school. i decided to message him to answer one of the questions he asked me instead of putting it on his wall just because i didnt want our whole convo appearing on everyones main facebook page. do you think i should continue the convo through facebook until he asks otherwise or until it dies? he is back home about 2 hours away. i've never experienced this type of thing before and i feel lost :p i have been waiting about 2 days before i respond to each message partly because i'm busy and partly because i don't want to respond too quickly, but he has been responding only a few hours after each message i leave. i feel like i'm 12 again. i smile when i find out he's responded but i also feel so lost hahah
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 May 2011):
Just go slow. He accepted you as a friend which means you can start by aking how he's doing, what's he is going to be doing over the summer.. you know the usual chit chat. If he is interested he will keep the convo up.
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reader, shaashiie +, writes (23 May 2011):
shaashiie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm sorry I misread your response. I understand what you mean now. Thanks for your reply:) I'm just trying to figure out what to actually say now
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reader, shaashiie +, writes (23 May 2011):
shaashiie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think you missed the part where I said I graduated and will literally never see him again unless I make the first move and tell him my feelings:/ I can't talk to him about it in person
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 May 2011):
I would never ever in a million years profess my feeling on someones social website.
Just start talking. If you two hit it off and meet in person you can tell him. Take the time to get to know him.
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