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writes:Okay, so I have been with my boy friend for a year and a half now. I am 18, and we are a good ways apart and he's the 3 guy I have had sex with. The first time the guy was so small, I didn't even feel anything, even though it took forever to get in!The second time, he was HUGE and it was awesome, but it was his first time so it didn't last long...and when my current boy friend and I did it, it had been years since I last had, and I am not the type to just..do it...so this was a BIG deal.It took us 3 months for me to even kiss him because I wanted to take this slow, and do this right.He never even talked sexually to me, or anything...then one day I accidentally made a perverted joke...and then it kind of broke the ice about that subject after several months, and about two weeks later..I went to hang out with him one day and on the way over I just knew that we would that night....and we did.It was very quick, and it hurt so bad, I didn't even pay attention to anything, really...and we didn't do it much after that, but then we increased more and more..It started to occur to me that everytime we would, he'd suddenly "get really hot" or "have to pee really bad" or some really random excuse to stop fast...Well, he's the only guy I have had sex with multiple times, and in a true intamate way..he's my first real sexual relationship so I am no expert, but I started to realize that I wasn't really getting into it...and that he stopped every single time...So then I thought I just sucked at it.I don't.He gose super fast, and it took me forever to figure it out!Now, we talked about it, and we tried a series of things to try and make him last longer..we looked up different tricks to try, and seriously..nothing.It is very frustrating...now, I'm getting to the point to where I just do it, even if I'm not in the mood because I know it'll be over before I know it...and it's no big deal.That's the problem, it's no big deal.Sex is very special to me, and I think it should be enjoyed...and I love him, and we're a great couple, and yeah we have our issues but we always work through them and we are a very strong couple and I'd like to be with him as long as I can...and if it just happens to be forever, I wanna to enjoy some good sex.I don't know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have tried different stuff like that too, but it seems no matter what I try, nothing changes.
He thinks he's just bad, but I love him, so no matter what..he could never be ...bad, just not as I'd like to have it.
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reader, Blondiebrooke69 +, writes (7 June 2010):
Well how bout you moan while he is going fast and moan slower slower and then tell him how amazing he is. Another thing you could do is cowgirl or reverse cowgirl which both allow you to control the speed of the sex and reverse cowgirl allows him to get a rear view and you can hold his knees or ankles for leverage :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, blondie the problem is that he goes too fast... I've tried a lot of those things, and it just makes him more excited.
and to honest answer, I qill dwfinitely try that.
I'll update later, because I'll probably give it a try tonight, ha
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (7 June 2010):
 I gave this same advice a while ago, but it seems appropriate so here it goes:
You could look at it time way: You are so friggin hot that just the sight of you makes him explode. But that is still no reason for his to be a lousy lover.
I suggest that before the next time you have sex, he needs to get the first load off by himself (masterbation). It takes a while for men to recover after reaching orgasm. Some guys a few minutes, and others a few hours. Err on the side of 2 hours to be safe.
Have him masterbate 2 hours prior to your love making, and by the time you two go for round two, he should be good to go.
Don't settle for a 2 minute man. Sex should be mutually gratifying.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, Blondiebrooke69 +, writes (7 June 2010):
There is alot you can do ... I recently saw a study where it said women take about 12minutes before the get aroused so try foreplay ...try costumes in bed... Get a kama sutra book... Try bondage sex... Try trogen magnum ectasy condoms its ripped so ull feel more pleasure... Also there is a pretty cool website that has sex furniture and lingerie its called liberator.com and maybe u could buy some stuff off of there to try. Good luck
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