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writes:i want to end my casual relationship,fwb,booty call or whatever you wish to name it. im scared to end it though. i dont know how to end it. we already lasted a while. im scared he would bad talk about me. i dont want to end it on bad term where we are going to hate each other either. any help?i know i have to end it and that it would be better if i did but just help a girl out Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2010): sexlessintheuk sorry but that's a narrow minded view there are just as much men that get burned in FWB's. They never work out we all know that.
OP you just stop having sex, that's all there is to it. Why would he say bad things about you? He doesn't have anything bad to say does he? It is only sex with a friend, no sex and he's technically still a friend right? Why would a freind say bad things about you?
If you want to go ahead and say to him that there'll be no more sex then go ahead. But personally I just wouldn't have sex anymore or get into positions where you will have sex again. Basically no longer physically intimate with him. He's an FWB this means you're not obliged to sexually satisfy him, it means you can stop at any time with out explaining anything because it's not a commitment. You don't owe him sex nor do you owe him an explanation for why you want to stop, if he asks just tell him you don't want to anymore you have that right.
If you think this guy will bad mouth you, then why are you sleeping with him, he doesn't sound like a very good friend if that's the way he is, so you have even less reason to sleep with him. Besides of he goes telling people stuff about you, then he looks like the bad guy, he'll look like a bitter fool because you decided not to have sex with him anymore. It would be in his best interest not to say stuff like that about you.
Just stop sleeping with him and please don't ever be foolish enough to sleep with another 'friend' FWB's don't work, sex is an act of romance not friendship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2010): Just leave emotion out and say "Hey this is not my goal with relationships and thus I feel we should respectfully part ways so that I can pursue what it is I am looking for"
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reader, Big T203 +, writes (19 October 2010):
Just talk about it ad end it. Its not that big of a deal. I've been though similar twice . and wasn't a big deal to end it.Just communicate
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2010): My guess is that your instinct is probably right. You have been with this guy for a while and even though you don't explain why, you seem to believe he will bad mouth you. Only you know why you feel this way and you should trust your instinct. If he wasn't the type to do this, you prob wouldn't have this fear. So he probably will. And as much as it does hurt to know that it might not end amicably, or that he will say some hurtful things about you, this is actually an even bigger reason why you need to let this guy go...and fast!
Let him talk. Who cares? Anybody who is anybody, anybody who cares about you, anybody who is even slightly intelligent will see right through his sh*t talking and take it for what it is. Do not worry about that. Let him talk. He'll eventually get tired of talking and move on.
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