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I want to date my friend's ex!

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Question - (25 May 2012) 2 Answers - (Newest, 25 May 2012)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I like my friends ex boyfriend they broke up a week ago and I want him to notice me but it's hard because he is still into her what do I do if she moved on and I want him to move on and date me

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A female reader, Xx-Scorpio-xX United Kingdom +, writes (25 May 2012):

Xx-Scorpio-xX agony auntI'm not the sort of person to say 'never date a friends ex'. I went out with one of my friends ex's and we lasted a year (broke up mutually) and I'm still on good terms with my friend (and ex). To me it depends on 3 factors~ how long they've broken up for, how the friend feels about it and how close the friend is.

A week is waaaaaaay too soon of someone breaking up to go out with (a friends ex or not) as chances are you would just be a rebound. And as you said yourself, he's still into your friend. Give it at least a month or so, and maybe if you still into it, talk about it to your friend. If she's ok with it (like mine was and she had gotten a new boyfriend) go for it, if not stay away unless you want to lose her as a friend.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2012):

They only broke up a week ago, it is way to soon to be trying to date this guy, he only broke up with her. Also she is your friend, so going after her ex at all let alone a week after they broke up is wrong. If you care for your friendship at all, I would say find someone who is not an ex of your friend. At your age it could give you a bad reputation, and you could possibly be seen as a really bad friend, and find that it will be harder to make friends let alone boyfriends. A girl I knew at school did that once, and she never got a boyfriend through school, and had only 2 friends who would spend any time with her. This one boy is not worth ruining everything for, and if he si still hurting from the breakup the last thing he needs is you trying to make him your boyfriend now. You be best to learn now, that friend's do not get involved with their friend's ex, and that there is an unwritten girls code that is best to stick to. Very few people associate with girls or women who don't abide by the code.

My advice is move on and find someone else.

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