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*ojo96k
writes:My bestfriend and i have been friends for almost two years we spent every min. togther. She used to lie to me about things all the time and i got over it but recitntly she started lieing to me a lot more and calling me the B word a lot more then normal. Also a few months ago she started getting a little wilder then normal. Drinking a lot more, haveing sex with random guys, and lieing to me and my other friends constently. Then she started fooling around with my big brother behind my back. she didnt think i knew about it but i did and it sent me over the edge. so i finaly got pissed off and stoped talking to her. Then she started sleeping with my brother. This really pissed me off and i get mad everytime her name is brought up. I keep getting into fights with my brother and parents because they think i am being slefish and ungreatful for not wanting her around or in my life anymore just because she is with my brother. I have to leave the house everytime she comes over (wich is all the time) so my parents and brother can spend time with her. My question is how do i make them understand how betryed i feel? or are they right and i should just stop being a baby about it? i just dont understand why the whole situation just makes me so upset. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2012): I think you should try and be polite and stop trying to tell them what she is like. Unfortunately, your brother won't listen and neither are your parents, because they are chosing to believe her lies. Just be nice to her when you have to be and I guarantee that given time her true nature will shine through and they will see that what you have been trying tell them. At the moment they just think that your jealousand being selfish. I understand that your not, and yes you have been betrayed in this situation, but while you continue to make it clear how angry you are about your brother's girlfriend, they will stay together longer and you will be seen as the problem. It's unfair, but it is life. My sister didn't like our brother's girlfriend, who was her best friend. She worked with this girl, and at work she would make my sister's life hell, causing my sister to lose her job, and any time my sister said anything to the girlfriend, our family would tell her she was being a baby, and telling the girlfriend she was just being a b and to ignore her. Once she just stopped saying anything and being polite when needed, my brother finally saw that his girlfriend was a manipulative woman who was cheating on him. So my advice is just accept that she is your brother's girlfriend and treat her as such, you do not have to be her friend, just be polite for your brother's sake. Good Luck sweetie.
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