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writes:So I am a 20 year old female and recently came out as bi. My best friend is a lesbian and we have only known each other for a few months. My problem is I have just gotten out of a relationship with a man that lasted 4 years and have fallen for her. We text constantly everyday, but every time I ask her to hang out she makes an excuse. It does not matter if I ask her weeks in advance or hours in advance there is always an excuse. Every time she gets drunk she texts me and confesses she finds me attractive, wants to make out with me, and says she misses me. What am I doing wrong? I told her I have fallen for her and I flirt with her constantly and I have told her she is not a rebound.I feel like a desperate puppy... I wait by my phone for her texts and constantly keep my schedule free in case she wants to hang out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2011): I know what it's like to be in love with one of your best friends. It sucks to hell. But if she likes you back it's a different story.
Cindy and Blonde are both right. You need to be upfront about how you feel. Lay it out for her (while she's sober) and agree to date - or not to date. Don't let her string you along. If she makes excuses or stands you up forget about it. She's just not into you. And hey, if you ignore her for a while maybe she'll come to you anyway.
Value yourself enough to move on if you have to. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (9 April 2011):
 Gender does not matter- she is clearly stringing you along.Ego boost , or the chance to secure herself a convenient "just in case " plan B , or just alcohol fueled
horniness. Don't give too much weight to what she SAYS, in fact don't give it any. What she DOES is shunning you and making up excuses when there would be the chance to actually meet up. She just is not that into you, and the sooner you accept it- and stop waiting by the phone- the better !
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