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writes:hi im 19 and currently in college about to start my sophomore year. last year I roomed with my best friend from high school but now I dont consider her really a friend. we came to the agreement last year that we would room together for the 4 years but honestly i think thats a huge mistake. Last year i tried really hard not to fight with her because i valued our friendship. sometimes i feel like she is obsessed with me. every time I would leave our room she would question me and ask where i was going and why. for as long as i can remember she has ALWAYS competed with me in everything..grades,looks,guys and sometimes even faults. she doesnt like me hang out with any other of my friends unless she is with us. I can not deal with this anymore. My boyfriend of 4 years has told me to move in with him but my problem is my parents im scared to dissappoint them but i really want to move in with him and get away from my friend. I also dont know how to tell my friend that i dont want to room with her because she tends to get very defensive with me. please help!!
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (14 July 2012):
I think you should find another girl to move in with. Sorry, but living with a guy in your late teens/early twenties is the the worst thing ever, at least in my experience (did it twice). Of course we all have to find out for ourselves, but I'm just saying--it sucks and maybe I just didn't deal with it well.
I'm sure your friend knows you guys aren't getting along. I doubt it'll be a big shock if you tell her you don't want to live with her anymore. She'll probably be upset but I'm sure the thought might have crossed her mind here and there. It happens. But I do think you shouldn't flatter yourself so much by saying she's "obsessed" with you, maybe she feels left out because you don't include her as much as she thinks you should. She's probably just trying to hold onto the relationship you guys once had. Hopefully, once you find somewhere else to live, you two can become friends again. It really is hard living with other people, even when they're your best friend or boyfriend...or whoever they may be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2012): Your friend seems very poseeive of you. Standup to her and say in your own way that she is pushing you away as a friend and she needs to give you space like you give her space but also if she dosent stay with you till the end she was not a real friend try to work it out to the best of your ability and try to confront her of why she keeps being posseive or controlling maybe shes douing it for a good reason and can` t tell you. Now your parents issue, your nineteen in college and are an official adult so that means you have to start making your own decisions your parents won` t always be there so instead of thinking about if you disappoint them think about yourself are you happy and based on your issue your not so just do what your heart and mind tells ya girl. Just think about yourself for oncce and not the opinion of othere people
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