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writes:my ex boyfriend has recently split up from me and i am finding it very hard to forget him he is always in my mind, and all i want to do is call or text him. i feel it wasn't the right thing to do but he said it was and wants to remain friends. but needs abit of time first before seeing me again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2013): My ex texted me today asking how much I would sellMy tv and stereo system for we came to a price And was texting ok he said I can have his computerAnd iPod system as he knows I will benefitFrom them more :-), I asked what he had been uptoHe said just working a lot of overtime as it keeps him going??Was nice to text him today it's been the friendliest Texts so far, when he got home from work he transferredMy money straightaway to my account :-). What does this all mean and how should I take it
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2013): I understand that and that is very hard to hear, his not a nasty person and ido think he will stay in contact with me like i said i am awaiting his reply now from the email but not holding my breath on that...
I can't stop thinking about him and so want to move on but feel there was a good enough reason to split and we were happy together never argued i really really miss him and just want him back - what do i do!!!!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (7 March 2013):
 I do not think you will be able to be friends for a long time if at all ever.
writing down his number is not healthy.. you delete it so you forget it honey....
clearly he knows you are not letting go... you need to let him go... it's over and done.. folks say let's be friends to make breaking up easier... it's not easy...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2013): Thank you it was ok I am not pregnant this week He has texted me asking when do I want my stuffBack I replied saying I have no room for it andWas going to sell he said he will give me the moneyFor it then I asked if I could still meet up withHim to have some questions answered he said he Feels if he sees me it will upset me and he don'tWant to give me any wrong ideas in his texts he Used to give me 2 kisses and now none he said The same to that it will give me wrong ideas???He said can I email him the questions ad how I feelAnd he will reply back with what he thinks I've sent the email but couldn't stop writing really Opened my heart and said what I was struggling withIt is a long long email - not too sure if he will reply nowI've only told the truth and if he had met me it Would of been easier face to face but yeah he wasRight I prob would of got myself upset...I said in my texts earlier he said he wants to stayFriends but he don't seem to be treating me Like a friend he replied saying we can be friendsBut I keep pushing him and soon he will snap!!!What does that mean I have packed his stuff up now in a box there's notMuch and deleted his number from my phone Wrote it down safe I don't know it off my heart tbhAnd see if that helps me, it's my birthday the end Of this month and I asked in my email to him He is invited it's a meal with friends so see whatHe says I hope he does come not to see him But as friend and our friends all hang out togetherSo would be good but unsure if he thinks I willGet the wrong idea like he keeps sayibg to me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2013): Dont stress , first do a home pregnancy test and then you can decide what you want to do.
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reader, s.plant12 +, writes (3 March 2013):
s.plant12 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate and worried cause of all the stress of everything
I have realised I haven't started my period
As am never late...
There was a time a while back when I was I'll
Kept vein sick for no reason and we had had sex
And the sickness nite of thrown my pill out...
What shallo do its only 3 days late and I'm
Prob just really panicking...
Appreciate ur replys
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2013): hi i know what your saying and am trying my hardest to not contact him and haven't since wed when i did that stupid mistake, i can't get him out of my head i get up thinking i am going to be okay then im not didn't realised i loved him this much and it hurts so much im not eating proberly, sleeeping and just don't know what to do for the best...my parents, with my brother and his family live in spain i used to live there then came back to england to study accountancy which i have done upto level 2 studying and have only recently started in a job as a juniour accounts assistant, i really am considering going back there to be with my family and my studies can come with me as i can upload my assignments etc online my exams i would have to come back for but they are spaced out through the year, my main thing is my job as its takening a big step back on my career im studying but not working as it???don;t know if im just thinking this as i want my family close i am living in a complete new area that im not from and just feel so so lonely!!! please someone give me some advice on how to mkae it get beteter. if only you could turn back time and i still had him with me everything would be okay and i would always be happy :-( :-(
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (28 February 2013):
 Hi, you want him back just stay away and let him figure it out for kimself. He needs to miss you and know you are worth fighting for.
So just let things run its course.
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reader, s.plant12 +, writes (28 February 2013):
s.plant12 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate on my situation I've had up and down daysAnd the otherday was talking to him through textHe said his unsure of meeting me as he don'tWant to get my hopes up I said he won't I justNeed answers to my questions and feel as 2 Adults why can't we do this and he wants to Stay friends and friends do see each other!!!He then said ok I will meet you sometime over thisWeekend!!!Then yesterday I did a really stupid thing and Uploaded some albums on facebook of me, friends, Family and me and him oooppppsss I thought I put it as private setting but didn't and everyone could see then in the news feed But he saw through a Friend and was not happy asone of his family was in the album but I didn't upload that.It was already on there???He rang me yesterday asking why and I have to remove themThem straightaway I did do and texted him saying I have and he replied saying thank you!!!My friend rang me last night saying he was very angry yesterday and upset as he thought I was movingOn.He's warned me to keep my distance and let him calm down As he feels I have now betrayed the friendship If there was one to have in the first place.I feel so silly and why did I do that I feel he won't Meet up now or talk maybe again!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2013): Hello thank you all for your replies. You are all right i just am struggling at the moment and feel so lonely he was a big part of my life and we didnt see each other all the time but always at weekends and maybe 1/2 in the week but when we was apart we was always texting eachother up and till we went to sleep???His excuse to dump me was he couldnt cope with me being down alot and never chilling out which was true i struggle with life and always think the worse i had a bad experience with my ex ex before this 1 i was married to him for 2 years and together for 10 he treated me very bad and i had a horrible life and saw the light at the end and met this lovely young guy who was my soul mate as well as my boyfriend.He knew my past and was really understanding and treated me well i just struggled to forget things and was down alot during our relationship which i can see now wasn't fair on him. he lives with his parents and i live with a friend and i was always talking about getting our own place together which at the moment he is not in a good paid job and don't pay anything at home and i think found it difficult he is doing a plumbing course and is trying to save to get hiself a van i think personnely i scared him and he felt trapped. he said to me he is terribly sorry and said he will see me soon to talk things through as i said there is some answers i need clearing up he said no problem he understands. i was asking him a lot this week when it will be but he said he will let me know when he is ready he is in a lot of pain with his back and can't think straight and when feeling better will let me know and i need to start chilling out and thinking of myself???
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reader, sugarplum786 +, writes (22 February 2013):
Honey, if you want him back, just dont contact him - no sms, no bbm, no facebook no calls. It called going cold turkey. It will help you heal and also if he loves you, this will make him miss you and want to come back.
There is no harm in hoping that he wil come back but you have to also accept that he may not. This is best that you try to build your life with out him but most important start to heal. Pay attention to your looks and dressing, start seeing friends, if you do run into him just act casual like you have moved on.
If you just continue to wait by the phone for his call or message and it does not come, you will be miserable and never be able to move on. Remember you are among many woman that have been hurt and they have survived, some have got the BF back others have moved on to greener pasteurs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2013): Yes, you can if you both want rebuild this.. I've been with my hubby for 24years and when we were younger we had a break and split for three months.. First thing I did was allowed him to have his space. He came over to my mums after about a week of no contact. Said he didn't know how to work the washing machine ( haha) I just said he had to learn haha but he kept coming around and we worked things out.. I went out as well, we weren't together so I wasn't staying on crying over it.. You show him that if he wants you, he better hurry up and tell you . Otherwise he feel the fool when you moved on and he's missed the boat .. So stop crying . Go out .. Give him space . Be light and airy when you do see him . You do not ask to get back together . He makes that move . The ball is firmly in his court. You can not change how you are. He needs to work out if he can handle being reassuring and supportive . Do not change, I don't understand his issue anyway.. If he loves you really does then he will make compromises as much as you will do for him . That's what relationship are about taking the good points with the ooe I wish he/she wouldn't do that/say that etc . So sweetie , you just be you . And if he loves you , he will miss you but you two have a lot of talking to do.. Keep us posted ..x
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2013): thank you for the reply's i have had a few people say that about being friends we were good friends before getting together and we have a good group of friends together that we always used to go out with???In our relationship i used to get down alot and stress over silly minor things and i know this annoyed him he did tell me time after time to chill out more and take day by day and just enjoy life, but did for abit then changed again and now i have losted him i wish i had just chilled more and listened to him. he told me he loved me the day we split and was crying too???can a ex come back if giving time and seen you have changed for the better?? can it work again??
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reader, Artistry +, writes (21 February 2013):
 Hi there, let him be for now. You will only alienate him, if you pressure him. Love cannot be forced. Try to reverse the roles, you would not want to be pressured. You will find someone else more suitable for you, who will want to be with you. Give it time. Good luck.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 February 2013):
you must give him time... if he said he wants to be friends but needs time, give him time.
I'm personally not a big believer in being friends with ex partners.
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