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female
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writes:So I have a boyfriend of almost 2 years... He is smart funny sweet gentle loves me a lot... My parents don't like him and made us break up but we got back together and they don't know. On top of that Christmas he gave me a really nice gift that I really needed so ... With that being said. I really want to break up with him but I am afraid that he will 1 tell my parents and 2 take the Christmas gift back and 3 I just don't want to be alone... I honestly feel trapped and I don't know what to do... Please help... I know the Christmas gift thing sounds super silly but it's my way of communicating with my family that I never get to see so its really kind of important to me... Please help I am so tired of not knowing what to do...
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2013): Don't do anything, stay with him. That's what you're going to do so I honestly don't know why you even ask.
You're too scared of being alone, you're scared of your parents finding out, you're scared of losing your phone and you don't give any reason why you should break up with him, you just list how great he is.
So just stay and be afraid all the time, enjoy your relationship of fear and weakness and just get on with it.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 April 2013):
 So you want to just stay with him out of fear ?
Give him the darn thing back, if you think it will stop him from doing what you fear more.
Save up and buy the phone/computer/whatever it is yourself.
And be honest with your family, don't live a lie. It will come back to bite you in the rear one day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2013): It would be wrong to lead someone on if you truly don't care for them. It makes you look bad as well and I mean who would want to be with someone who is using someone for money/gifts and company. Its just wrong. From the looks of your age 18-21 I think you are grown enough to handle the repercussions of your actions when it comes to your parents. If anything I think you need to grow up because what you are saying is silly and selfish. The only person you are looking out for is yourself as long as YOU aren't alone, YOU don't loose your cell phone/laptop/tablet whatever it is, and as long as YOU are not in trouble with mommy and daddy I think you know what you have to do you just don't want to do it. Sounds juvenile and selfish to me and I am not trying to be mean just realistic. As far as gifts go under the law in almost all US states you have no legal obligations to give any gifts back unless it was a conditional gift i.e. engagement etc a gift is a gift and its yours. So my advise put your big kid pants on... due your BF a favor and cut him loose, prepare for what may come from your parents, and trot merrily into the sunset with whatever gadget you get to keep.
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