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*akers_lover09
writes:hey i need some help. my girlfriend has a lot of guy friends and im okay with that becasue i have a lot of female friends, but two if them are driving me crazy. one she used to takl to but lost interest in him when she met me. The other is HIS friend that she is also friends with. All day they call her "boo" or tell her that they miss her and love her. One of them will RECORD a love song on his phone and send it to her. I have already confronted both of them and one seems to have gotten the message, the other backed off for a while and eased his way back to doin the same things (like the snake he is). I can tell she loves me so i cant figure out how to go about it because i want to just knock both of thier heads off (thats my plan for right now). I dotn want to seem overbaring, and i have given them plenty of warnings and ive talked to her about it as well but she is so damn intersted in keeping EVERYONE happy. I dont want to lose her because i physically release my frustrations on them. So whats my smartest move? Thanks alot for the help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2010): I really dont think just attacking them will help you at all. All that will accomplish is making her upset with you, and giving them sympathy. It will only make you look bad, no good will come of it. If anything you will piss them off and make them want to flirt with her even more. I think its really a problem with her. If these guys are doing those kinds of things, SHE needs to tell them to stop. She needs to respect how you feel and understand how frustrated you are. I totally understand, its not right having some jerks hitting on someone you love like that. She needs to put them in their place, no matter how she feels or how close of friends they are. Thats not acceptable and she needs to see how much its hurting you. Trust me, just attacking them will make it seam like you are the bad guy, as unfair as that is, its just not worth it.
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