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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I been dating my boyfriend off and on for ten years now and have been living together for the last six, not only has there been no mention of marriage, he is also very dull and boring, see he is 41 and I'm 28 and he never wants to do anything or go anywhere his excuse is either he has no money or he is too tired from working, we recently moved to a new place that is more expensive and I couldn't possibly pay these bills alone even though now he claims to have very little money and is not paying all of his half of the bills so now I have to sacrfice and cover his half, now I feel overwhelmed and want out because I think I deserve marriage by now but on the other hand he has bad credit and has been married before so I think he wouldn't make a good husband. See my parents are deceased and I really have no one to turn to and I can't afford to live alone so I'm not sure what to do but I do know I wanna be happy with someone my own age. I need someones advice. Confused girl.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 April 2010):
 If you can pay his half as well as your own, you can get a smaller flat/apartment on your own.
Why stay when the love is gone?
Why string him along?
And IF you did sign a lease/mortgage together you need to find out how to get out of it. YOU are 28 years old, you better be able to stand on your won two feet.
I lived by myself from the age of 18 (out of choice) I bought my first house at 24.
Save up some money and figure out WHAT you need to do to be on your own.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010): Yes, the lease is till december first
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reader, rambini  +, writes (14 April 2010):
 whatever this guys faults, he does not deserve to be used and strung along because you are scared/too skint to live alone. you need to grow up and take responsibility for your own life, and maybe that way you can both go your seperate ways and find happiness elsewhere. you are obviously not happy, and neither is he, so dont drag it out for financial gain.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 April 2010):
 Did you sign a lease or mortgage together?
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