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36-40,
*odeeplyintoher
writes:I just started being in this relationship and im so into her and would love to be with her. The only problem is shes scared of being hurt and i can promise you this i wouldnt hurt her shes so amazing. And i know she likes me and would like to get more serious. I don't know what to do and i want to help her get over that and be a real couple. What do u guys suggest that i do or what can i do to help her get over it i really liek this girl and i would love to be with her. im just lost and confused i dont want to lose her. any suggestions would help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2011): i had the same thing with my girl and i did not realize that trying to convince her that i won't hurt her was so stupid thing to do, i wish i have not push her that hard
you r right, she feels afraid of being hurt again so i supposed to give her the time to trust me
now i lost her forever, so hard, living without her, so hard
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (20 February 2009):
 I think you just need to be patient with this girl and give her some space. She must have had some bad experiences with men in the past so even if you keep telling her you wont hurt her, she will find it hard to believe.
If you give her the time she needs to get used to being with someone again then she will see just how much you care for her and it will make things stronger between the two of you.
I would say just take things slowly, take her out on lots of romantic dates, hang out with each other so she gets to know you better etc. All she needs to do is trust you, and this will come through getting to know you better. Dont smother her and try and force a relationship on her - this will push her away. Show her what a great guy you are and in time she will be ready to make things more serious.
Good luck!
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