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writes:I have finally met this great girl, i am 34 and she is 24. We started chatting over the internet a couple of months ago and we got along really great, and we also sent pictures of ourselves to each other. We arranged for our first date to be somewhere exciting, so we decided to meet up at a theme park. We had such a fun day, laughing, joking, flirting, and we finished off the day with a meal in town. For our next date she came down and stayed over mine for a few days over easter, we thought it would be best she stayed as she lives quite a long way away. Again we had a lovely couple of days- i gave her the option of staying in the second bedroom but she diden't mind getting in with me. I was a perfect gentleman and did not try to come onto her on either days which i think she respected, we just fell asleep in each others arms, and to me it felt like the most beautiful thing ever, like heaven. We have been talking loads since then, and she is coming down to stay again not this weekend but the next. The thing is i feel we are both afraid of committing, we keep hiding behind the friends thing, i keep calling her my friend, and she does too, although its so obvious we both have strong feelings for each other. I really do like this girl, more than i have ever liked anyone in a very long time. I really want to take it to the next level but don't want to risk pushing her away. Basically i would just like some advice on how to step up from the friends thing.Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): dude im in the same positioon as you, exact same thing. All i can say is just take it slow and let her know that you are there for her and she is the only one you care for and love and that some day, you want to fall in love with her if she is willing to do the same, then so be it. Dont put to much preasure on labling yourselfs "in a relationship" because that might push her away...and thats the last thing you want. Just keep up the communication and be there for eachother and let it grow naturaly, AS FRUSTRATING AS IT MAY SEEM... you cannot force love...its something that happens naturaly and you will know when it does.
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brian M
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