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writes:I could really use some advice/suggestion on this. I am 32 yrs old, I have recently separated from my husband of 7 years and I have 2 boys (6 and 4). We still talk and he expresses every day how much he loves me and wants his family back. The problem is that he's an alcoholic and he's been abusive in the past. I'm praying that he will get better and that maybe one day we will be able to live happy together again. But I know that time is not now. Me and my children are currently living with my mother in a beautiful log home in the country. And though she has been very supportive and we get along great, I still feel the need to be independent. I found a 2 bedroom mobile home which is located on a horse farm. The land and the location are BEAUTIFUL, but the mobile home is VERY small, BUT it's within my budget. I don't mind the temporary sacrafice, but my mom thinks that it's too small for me and the boys and that I could find something better. I'm not receiving any child support yet and it's very possible that my husband may be going to jail for violating probation. My point being, I can't depend on him for any kind of monetary support right now. So, my question is......should I make a sacrafice by moving into this small mobile home that's within my budget so I can live independantly with my children or should I continue relying on my mother for shelter until something else comes along? Who knows if something else better (within my budget) will come along? This is a very big decision for me and I just don't want to make the wrong choice. I want what's best for my kids most of all. Thanks.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (13 October 2007):
It depends on your relationship with your mother. If she allows you to be independent I say take her help. You may need to sit down and negotiate some rules. Best put them in writing. You should also contribute to the household.
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reader, rcn +, writes (13 October 2007):
 This is a personal venture, and you need to make these choices. You are a strong person, I can tell with you knowing it's not the right time to get back together. I hope he'll get help as well for the sake of you family.
Weather you choose this trailer or wait for another opportunity is a decision you'll have to make. I think being independent is a wonderful idea and a big step for you. In the long run your children will benefit greatly if you are independent v. dependent. You want them to learn how to stand on their own two feet as well, when their ready. Your strength and direction will be a positive development for them.
Living in the US, you might try the Dept. of Housing (hud), they many times have places to rent and do so on an income base scale.
Good luck to you.
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