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*ussie32tigerr
writes:So, the guy I like and I have become close lately. After he broke up with his girlfriend, he told me that he wasnt ready for a relationship, and I was completely okay with that, because I had just been broken up with too. So I was surely in no place or position for a relationship either.. That was likke, 9 months ago. 7 months ago, he told me he loved me. Not "ily" or "Love ya!", the actual "i love you and you mean the world to me" for the first time. EVER! (: this was also when he kissed me for the first time. And just to be clear, Im not dating him...Well, today I was talking to one of my best friends, and she was texting him, and she asked him why he hasnt asked me out yet, because EVERYONE says we should be going out already. Even my parents asked me why we wernt dating yet. Anyways, she asked him why he hasnt asked me out, and he told her that he wanted to take things slow. And she told him what do you mean. He then said I was (and I quote) "the most amazing, beautiful, smart, funny, and all around best person he knows." and how he was "scared of rushing into things because he has screwed up past relationships that way". WHAT DO I DO?! Im so confused... I really want to go out with him, like REALLY badly because Im scared Im going to lose him. I want to be able to call him mine and be in an exclusive, just-us, relationship. Because what if some other girl wants him too? Im not in this for sex, because I believe in staying pure until marriage (i know call me crazyy). Im in this because I love him. No doubts anymore. But I dont want to make him feel like he has to rush into this. If he wants to take it slow, im okay with that. Ill wait I guess...
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 December 2011):
 Well it sounds to me like he is only taking things slow because he is insecure and he thinks he is going to mess it up so he is scared to move forward because of his past relationships, why does it need to be him to ask you out, why do you not take the lead. You know that he is interested in you, so tell him that you are interested in being in a relationship and ask him what he thinks about that. There is no point listening to friends and getting them to ask, that is all play ground stuff. It is time you both sat down alone and spoke about this.
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