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36-40,
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writes:There's this guy that I like(d). I mean, I still like him and he's sort of interested in me, just not interested in a relationship; not with anyone though so I don't feel too bad about it. When we first discussed this, he said he was interested in "just having fun", but I refused because I didn't/don't want to end up hurt... But now I'm thinking that it might not be all that bad now that my feelings for him are under control.But that's not the problem. The problem is that after a LOT of thinking, I've decided that if nothing else, I at least want to be friends with this guy because I'd rather have that than not have him in my life at all. But another thing is, I only really get to talk to him online or by text. There is the option of the phone, but I'd rather not (I hate talking on the phone to anyone! Haha). He's not someone I met online, he's a friend of an old friend.So my question is, how can I maybe become like his best friend when we only communicate online and not even that often? I mean, I realise that I could just talk more and get to know him better and yeh, that makes sense, but sometimes I feel like that if I send him messages too much that he might get annoyed. He's never seemed to be annoyed, but then he's polite and might just be bearing it.I'm frustrated!Please help!Thanks x
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reader, getright11  +, writes (16 January 2009):
 Maybe if your looking for a complex more stable relationship you shouldn't date this young man. but if you are kinda like"ohh now i just wanna get a kick out of it" then go for it! you never know how things turn up!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2009): I really understand where you're coming from. I like when you said:
"I've decided that if nothing else, I at least want to be friends with this guy because I'd rather have that than not have him in my life at all."
That's the truth right there :). It is possible to become best friends with him. Trust me, you guys have the perfect relationship. Just give it a little more time and I'm positive that it will be exactly what you want it to be. It's all about waiting. We all hate it, but everyone ends up doing it anyways haha. He seems like one of those people that you'll know throughout your whole life and that's hard to find. Cherish it!
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