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writes:*Op's own title*Can someone help me?I've been with this man for four years, through alcoholism, abuse and tears. I stay with him because I have no where else to go. I just need someone to listen to me please. Even if you don't reply just listen to me. I am 28 years old and my name is Natasha, I loved a man so much I gave up my self respect for him. I lost who I was and now I don't know who I am or who I've become. I find myself crying in solitude and wondering if my life will ever change for the better. You would think someone that was going for her masters would make a life for herself, or a better one than the one she had. I have tried for so long and I think I'm ready to give up, i'm so tired, so tired. How do you think it is to wake up everyday and dread the place where you lived. To get up every morning and wonder what is today going to bring. Tonight I find myself exhausted and weary, this little writing is all I have left, for someone to hear me. Get me out of here. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2010): A policewoman once said to me 'You know what you have to do'. Sometimes it just needs someoneto confirm what you already know you should do. What you have gone through doesn't make you any weaker it makes you stronger, it is just you can't see it yet. Gather your strength, it is there and get out. You will find yourself again, your strength and conviction to make your life happy again. Don't be hard on yourself either, others have been through similar circumstances too, instead use the energy to have faith in yourself. It takes time but you will get there in the end.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (17 April 2010):
 I left an abusive alcoholic relationship after 18 years. In the last 5 years of that marriage I knew beyond all doubt that I wanted out. I had two teenage kids, a job that didn't pay well and nowhere to go. Basically I worked, saved money when I could, tried and tried to get a full time job, which I did in the first year of my plan. After 3 years I had saved enough to get legal advice. I divorced my husband, stayed with my family until I got a settlement and now have my own home.
Sometimes I don't know how I found the strength to pull it off. It was the most stressful time of my life but in a strange way there was a feeling of excitement that I was working on a plan. I didn't care how long it took me, because I knew that if I did nothing, I would never escape my situation.
I know you feel hopeless, but once you realise that nobody can help you but yourself, you will find the strength to begin your plan of escape.
Be resourceful, confide in people who you can truly trust and ask for support.
I wish you the best of luck and hope this helped you a little.
Aunty Em xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010): the answer is GET OUT! Do you have parents, friends or relatives that can help? A church? Or...in the usa, any place big enough to have a college, will also have a womens shelter. Please get out, there is a bright future out there waiting for you. You are blinded by hopelessness and despair but you must believe me. You can do it, there IS hope. You have lost sight of your self worth, but you ARE an intelligent woman. Find a way and break loose of this degrading man and life. The choice is yours sweetheart, but know that we care. Hugs, mal
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010): i was in one for 6 years and we had two kids together n he was a waste of breath he hit me put me down all day long n i did and gave this sorry excuse of a man everything i left about a year ago and it was the best decition ive ever made it was hard to leav and he made sure of it and emotionaly it was hard for a while even though he treated me like i was gum stuck on his shoe i loved who he was when we met u need to leav if u have the money set urself up w/ a place of ur own dnt tell him then just move out one day it sounds like ur misserable and trust me there r decent men out ther i met an amazing guy he was like an angel came at the perfect time and treats me like a queen n funny thing is his name is angel i wish the best of luck to u and if u need to talk u can reply to the coment in i'll give u my e mail
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