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writes:I have posted about my predicament before. I did ocntrol myself until a few days ago. And now I am back again.Here is this guy I have severe crush on. I don't know much about him other than he is single but I am really carried away by his charm. He is very admirable, helpful and capable. I know him on purely formal grounds but ours is a friendly relation. He is NOT my coworker. He is one of the sweetest guys I have known. I don't meet him often or talk to him. PLS READ and HELP.He has shown many signs of liking me but I am not sure if they can be seen in that angle. It is painful because I have a fiance and I like him. Yet, I like this guy too much and I am trying to control myself!The way he looks at me melts my heart. All over my face, ears and lips. And I gave away once by involuntarily looking at his lips for a sec. I did not mean to. And he caught it and instantly looked at mine. It was a reflex. That took my breath away. That smile. He can't help smiling and I can't too. U know when people do that.His voice mellows while talking to me. And often he talks to me when we are alone. If there are people around, he is serious and walks away. Sometimes he ignores me but when no one is around he smiles pretty and talks to me.And he finds enjoyment in making fun of me in a cute fashion. He does that whenever he gets a chance.I have no idea if he has a girl in his life. Nobody knows. But he has always changed his behaviour for me. Small things but yes! If I mentioned something he would do that for me. So every nerve in me says he likes me and he is not opening up because I am taken.I want to get him out of my mind. Two days I do and the third I am all over him again longing painfully for him to kiss me. I know it will never happen and I can't. How do I crush my crush? It hurts a lot, I dont want more.I want some magic to throw me miles aaway from him or in to his arms? I can't get on like this. I think I am in love with him as this has been going on for more than 6-7 months now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): Trust me when I tell you, that we would all love to avoid heartbreak, giving yourself to someone is a risky business, but oh so worth it.
Having said that I notice you say, *So every nerve in me says he likes me and he is not opening up because I am taken* You're taken? Does that mean you are married or with someone? In which case you are not free, not matter what he does or doesn't do. If you want to be single, then that is what you have to sort out first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): You are not in love with him but have a major crush. A lot of your feelings are based on fantasy. He can tell you feel like this I dare say hence his manner towards you. He finds it flattering. Sometimes an attraction like this can be very powerful but seldom leads to a relationship. So recognise it for what it is and try to put it behind you.
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