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*aydee37
writes:Hey everyone! :)Ok so I want my boyfriend to be more open with me!He barely tells me anything! We just talk about our daily routines and updates on friends and family!The day before he was telling me how he had a fight with his fav. Aunt which happened ages ago! I want him to know that he can be open with me and talk about anything!I want him to call me when he's feeling down!Do you think he doesn't trust me and maybe that's why?Oh and btw.. I want to ask him about his ex but I'm afraid of what he might say!Also I'm scared if I get hurt! I wanna know who broke up with who and why! His ex and I were childhood friends but were not close!I just don't know how to bring up the conversation or how to initiate it! Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2010): Just don't. I know you're curious about his past, but honestly, whatever he tells you will either hurt you, make you jealous, or both, and it's just not worth the anxiety and pain, believe me. How long they dated, and why they broke up is pretty general information that he should feel comfortable discussing with you, but please don't dig around for more details. Guys aren't as selective with their words as women are, so it's likely that he'll end up saying something that you complete misinterpret. I'm going through something similar now. My boyfriend and I have had WAY too much conversations about our exes and have revealed details about these relationships that should've stayed in the past for both our sakes.
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reader, Spades  +, writes (2 June 2010):
 As for talking about his ex-girlfriend, you might not get all the answers you want. It's in his past and he may not want to talk about it.
But if you want, I wouldnt start off talking about something in my own life. That may make it easier for him to open up.
Him not being open doesn't nessesarily mean he doesn't trust you. Him talking about his problems and/or feelings may feel as if he is exposing a weakness or vulnerbility. Many people feel this way.
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