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writes:Hi I've been talking to this girl online and we get on really well. I met her for the first time lat night with 3 of her guy friends. the guys seem nice and the girl i've spoke to is really nice too we got on instantly and she is very pretty too.when we first met she hugged me and same when we left she hugged me goodbye.I would like to hopefully start something with her and I was thinking about asking her out. I was thinking about doing it the next time we speak so i don't get sucked in to the "friend zone" or "the sweet guy friend" which I have been in the past.She's 17 and i'm 19 so age isn't a problem and at one stage she will be 18 before i'm 20 she lives close and we go to the same college too. i don't want to freak her out or anything because we do get on and would love it if i had her as a friend.should i go for it and ask her out?p.s. when i was going to ask her out i was going to mention the fact that if she doesn't want to i'd stil like us to be friendsthanks for the help Reply to this Question
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reader, franny1297 +, writes (6 October 2012):
 you are probably afraid of rejection. girls love being asked out, depending on the type of guy. you two must have really hit it off and got along. you said she was nice, if she is nice then if you ask her out but she says no she will be kind about it and not get rude. us girls don't usally get rude. give it a try, besides, are you doing anything wrong? it's not a crime to ask a girl out. if she does say no, that's fine, try and get her to like you, and you never know, she might eventually like you back . . .
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (6 October 2012):
 You either date a girl or remain a friend. Once you mention "friend" you are leaning towards friendship. Intent is very important. If you express interest in something more but tell her you will settle for friendship it's going to confuse her. A girl wants a man who is certain and confident about what he wants. I don't get how asking a girl out will freak her out. Maybe it freaks you out. She is very pretty so she will get asked out all the time. Still she wants to pick and choose, and wants a guy who truly understands her and not just be with her for her physical beauty. A date can be casual and it's a time to determine if you are a good fit later. Simply ask her out for lunch. Just one sentence. No need to talk about alternative options. If she wants you just a friend she would say so.
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