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writes:Halo,i got lots of problem. Pls i need advice. i am 19, i have been always single till now. I am a little bit introverted, the shy type . Not so easy wid girls specially. But once i get friendly, i am mixed wid them. da problem is, now i love a girl so much, i love her for two years now. Afraid to ask her out. Da reasons r , that i never ask anyone out before and she is beautiful,and i dont look good. I workout a lot N have a real good physique but not da looks.and now all my frenz are in relationships, i confess that its paining me. Anyways, any advice to get better in any of my problems. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks everyone. I ll ask her out. But i m feeling too scared. U r right , i ve always been confined to only studies. So i didn meet a lot of people. And i can even wait two more years , if she wants me to wait . Love is just like this
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2008): I am going to talk with my experience, the way you talked is somthing that my boyfriend would say, you and him has the same type of personality and he has the same concerns that you do, on the other hand I am very attractive and guys have always liked me, I have always had many options, but I pick the introverted, shy and neerdy guy, why I did that? because in my eyes he is the cutest ever. He was sincere and the best guy I have meet, he is everything to me, we have been aproached in the streets and some men have tell him things like " oh man she is so beautiful, what did you do to get her? what I am trying to tell you, is that everybody has some beauty, so in her eyes she may think you are better looking that other guys, or maybe not, but it is a risk that you have to take, what if she doesn't reject you? are you going to loose a oportunity because you are scared? just ask her out, don't get intimidated by her beauty, preetty girls are not always bitches
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2008): I read somewhere that men are more afraid of asking out goodlooking women than other women. If this is true then she may never get asked out and get fed up of it! Also, what makes you think she judges people on looks alone? She may have been admiring your body for all you know.
Most people have to face some rejection sometime in life so it would be better to risk it. For one thing she might say yes and think how happy you would be! Even if she said no you would have tried and stop wondering, and be less afraid of rejection next time.
Good luck. I hope it works out for you.
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reader, Trent Gear  +, writes (4 December 2008):
 Two years over one girl is painful, and as much as you think you love her, its time to move on. Love is really too strong a word to describe what may be a friendship at best.
There are other fish in the sea, and if you take good care of your body there IS a girl out there that will find you attractive for who you are that you too find attractive. Chin up, keep working out, and as a fellow introvert, force yourself to go out into town. Even if its a guys only night or similar, you just need to get comfortable in the new place and you will no longer feel confined. Especially if you feel lonely because all of your male friends are taken. A guys night out can vary depending on their relationships, but is a great first step to fixing both problems of isolation from your friends, and developing a new comfort zone.
Best of luck.
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