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*katori
writes:So there's this girl i really like, she's really beautiful and funny and smart and i really want to go out with her. the problem is this: basically, i'm a coward. I'm usually an outgoing person, i have loads of friends and i'm great at making people laugh or just making good conversation. but when it comes to girls, especially girls i like as much as this one, that all goes out the window. i'm scared to ask her out, even with a group of friends, and i'm constantly worrying about messing things up. at the moment it's going nowhere because i'm too scared to do anything about it. does anyone have any advice on how i can try and overcome my irrational fear? (and yes, i know, this makes me sound like a complete wuss =P)Thanks in advance,Akatori Reply to this Question
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reader, Goodguy84  +, writes (11 April 2010):
First of all ask her to just hang out, is she says no then that means she wouldn't even go out with you. Hang out and see how it goes, then just keep hanging out, tell things heat up, if they do. But you have to ask her yourself by yourself, it shows you have confidence, girls like that. It'll look worse if you show up with "wing man", then she'll think, he can't ask me on his own.
Trust me, I've been there too. I was a wuss once, and still can be from time to time.
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reader, Tasmanian devil +, writes (1 April 2010):
 Just ask her straight face to face when your alone (she may feel embarrased in front of other people), but don't do it out of the blue, show signs of interest, a compliment, and if its recieved positively then just go for it.
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reader, Kirstyteenauntireland  +, writes (1 April 2010):
 Everyone goes through this at some stage =).But we all get through it you Just have to Bite the Bullet. Just go over to her and Ask her " can I talk to you " and if shes with her friends ask can you go somewere more private or mabye msn her start chatting there and there ask for her number get to know her a bit more , find out what all you have in common and then Be it face to face , Text or Msn ask her out. =) Good Luck =)
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