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writes:well Ive been friends with this girl for a couple of years now and we have gotten to know each other quite a bit now. I want to ask her out but i have already done this before and she said it felt kind of weird if we went out. Although its never come up again I don't really want to ask her out again as i like having her as a friend and I fear I may make things awkward between us. Is there a way in which to approach the situation without causing a fallout between us? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2011): I couldn't have said it any better. Asking her to hangout without the "date" label works because you guys have been friends for a while. This takes away the pressures and expectations of a "date", yet you get to spend time with her on what is essentially a date. Show an interest, flirt a little, so she's not automatically "friendzoning" you. But keep it natural and continue to be yourself or else you'll freak her out. L
ike strongfp said, don't get hung up if she doesn't want to hangout. For me personally, it's really hard to see a guy as more than a friend if we've been friends for a while. But if you slowly build your friendship into a relationship, instead of just suddenly asking her out, it could very well work out for you.
Good luck!
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