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writes:It all started when I saw a girl in the university about a year ago .. From the first moment I felt it was a different girl .. We did not talk a lot just to say hello as colleagues.She had a lot of friends and was very popular within the university .. i kept my eye on her for along time .. I have heard a lot about her life and her many relationships with guys and it deals with the drug and meet more people around a bad reputation ..All this made ??me feel I am responsible for it one way or another.About two months ago,I spoke with her for the first time in concert at the university ..I expressed my desire to see her re-dye her hair red as before .. Then left with her friends and after about a week as surprised as she dyed it and told me she did it for me.I was surprised and came to my mind, she welcomes to speak with me for I am with the time gained great popularity in the university where I got the highest score and my family of renown and prestige in the community ,so I now have a lot of friends and she of course notes each that ..We started talking more and started to accompany me in college for long periods .. We talked on the phone a lot and asked her to change her life style .. She really started to refrain from drugs and alcohol ..almost she cut off her relations with those bad people .. and still telling our friends that she is going to be a different one ..Since a few days in the last day of university I gave her birthday gift .. it was a wonderful necklace and she insisted to lay it down on her neck myself, it was a great day and she told me that.she said that she told her mom a lot about me All of this, but I think the situation is complicated.As the features of the relationship between us is not clear.We did not talk about any aspects of emotional things.I told her before that I admire for almost a year from the first time I see it ..She knew that i'm interested in her to a large degree .. and always say that i'm a different one and she changes her life since i speak with her.We are now in a summer holiday and she lives in another city Which is far from mine about 90 kilometers.. the holiday is long.Of course i can't see her and I'm afraid to ask her to go out on a date.And i feel that there is a far distance between us .I don't know what is the next step ?
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reader, Abella +, writes (3 July 2011):
 Can you drive the distance to see her? If so phone her, tell her you will be in her town on (nominate a day when you think she will be free) and ask if you can take her out for lunch in the place where she lives.
If she says yes ask her to nominate a place in or near where she is at the moment.
And if you get to go to have that lunch with her ask her, after the lunch if she can show you the nice parts of the place - you driving.
And take it easy. Don't get too serious too soon. Keep it light, positive and happy.
Ask her about her, let her tell you about her interests. What activities she likes and places she likes to go and why.
I think she likes you, but she may be mystified why you have not asked her out yet.
Girls usually only discuss with their Moms the guys they really really like.
Good luck with this.
But take it slow and steady.
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reader, sammy1986  +, writes (3 July 2011):
long distance relationships can work it is hard but if you both work on it and make time reguarly to see each other it should be fine you must have made a good impression on her for her to change the things she has done that you have suggested have you got her phone number email address etc if you have i would send her a simple text or email saying how would you feel about going on a date with me sometime just something simple like that if she says no which i don,t think she will next time you see her just don,t mention it if she says yes which sounds like she will then great good luck
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