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writes:I can't forget about this guy I was friends with; it's been months but I still cry over him. I'm pretty sure I'm in love with him, but I've been in a situation where I'm not around people and my social anxiety has become so bad I have trouble talking to my closest friends. I'd do anything to have this person back in my life, I'd settle for just being friends, but I don't know how to talk anymore and I feel like I can't do anything. Help? Sidenote: Does this seem vague enough? I don't think anyone I know uses this site, but I'm kind of worried people I know will see it and know it's me... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2010): More info needed.I take it that you pushed him to hating you and now you realize he was the best guy that ever happened for you? What did you do that?does he have a girlfriend fiance married?more info
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reader, sunandstars  +, writes (17 December 2010):
Maybe you should talk to this person and try to make friends again, but I don't know what's gone on between you so I don't know how easy this would be, could you give me some more information? I've been in a similar situation, I went out with this guy for ages and didn't talk to my friends while I was with him, which was the worst thing I've ever done in my life, and when we broke up I tried to get in with them again and they were horrible, my fault I know, so ever since then I've been in a predicament because I have to have a boyfriend to be able to talk to because I don't have the same trust in the relationship with my friends anymore, although it is gradually improving. So what I'm saying is I really suggest you make friends with this guy again because you can't go through life with no-one to confide in and you don't want to be anxious. Sorry this is a babble. I hope it helps though.
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reader, EJ  +, writes (17 December 2010):
Hi there! Yes, it is very very vague. Unless you can define the problem the solution will not come. Why did he dump you?By the sound of it, looks like he has moved on quite easily.Sorry to break the bubble, but your wanting and pining for him will not make him come back - the Universe does not work that way. In the meantime, you are closing all possibilities of starting a whole new life with someone better. When a door closes, many more will open up and link you with a whole new world. But, you have to make the choice. Value yourself. You cannot change a man's heart. Are you willing to beg? What kind of relationship will that be?Stay strong - this pain will stop soon. Meanwhile, find something interesting to do and bury yourself there for awhile till the wound heals.Have a magical life!
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