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writes: i am a 22 year old gay man in a relationationship with a 33 year old man for 2.5 years. We love each other except over the last 6 or 7 months i have become bored with the way we are. We had one threesome with a guy to see if this helped. It didn't. I never thought i could do that sort of thing,i felt disgusted that i liked it. The problem now is that i have become friends with one of my partners employees, a 20year old who is straight but confused, and flirts with me uncontrolably. i want to sleep with him i told my partner he said its ok. I haven't slept with him, i have however fallen in love with him. I don't know what to do. I don't want to have an affair if it came to that, but i don't think if the chance came up i wouldn't do it.I love my partner so much and couldn't imagine myself without him.I love both of them. I want to be with both of them. What should i do? I need advice!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2005): follow ur heart, and enjoy your life, your only young and you have to rest of your life with you, live your life the way you want to live it and dont live it via any one elses ways. best of luck hun
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2005): Cut both these guys loose, hun because I think you are just as confused at this young 20 year you 'desire sexually and are infatuated with", at your workplace. Please remember, the sex drive is powerful and has been known to override the best of intentions so don't mislead yourself, by mistaking lust for love. Also, it sounds like all your 'I love you's' are just expressing your current feelings, but it seems like the love you express has nothing to do with a happy future with either of these two guys., especially your current bf. So I do question whether you have the devotion, maturity & committment in your heart, to even remain in this long term relationship, with your current partner or anyone, for that matter.Love is giving totally of the heart and takes a long time to develop between two people and my interpretation of real love may differentiate greatly from yours. I really think all committed relationships need a goal, a future. Or else, it is just two people who are emotionally tied up for no good reason. Does this make sense to you? If it doesn't, you are not ready for committment and I think you should just "go it alone"-get out and have fun-being single and fancy free, once again. And I question why your current bf, just accepts your level of 'sexual acting out behavior' as normal? It's as if, you find that sexual intercourse with other people boosts your self-esteem and helps you feel good about yourself. This really is just sex and this really is just all about 'you'. You do have choices as to where your relationships go...make the healthiest, happiest choice with your life and your future. Take care and best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2005): One is your partner of a few years the other is straight and confused .. you love them both .. do i really need to tell you what you should do?? its a choice between someone new who is straight and confused maybe seeking to try it out compared to someone who you know trust and love and have shared so much with that is infact gay as you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2005): well which one do you like best who do you love more sit with them for an hour or so and talk it through with both of them seperate
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