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writes:I was talking to a guy I met online. We talked forever. And I really enjoyed the conversation. We made plans to finally meet, and he stands me up. I was devastated. I thought he liked me. 2 weeks later, I'm over it. Somewhat. But I find out, I personally know this guy. We live in the same neighborhood. He tries to talk to me all the time. He doesn't know I'm who he stood up. Now I feel I have the upper hand. I want pay back. I want to play him, the way he played. But my question is...is it worth it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): Have you ever stopped to think he's in fear of getting the REJECT button from you?You say 'he tries to talk to me all the time'. Well, since you didn't show any interest in him then, he's thinking when you see his face you won't be intested at all.Next time he comes up to talk, show him some interest! Give him a sign! flirt a little... he's just nervous and doesn't want to lose your friendship
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 February 2009):
 Ok here is my advice. Getting even will feel great for a minute or two. It's like peeing your pants in winter trying to get warm. Not a good idea in the long run.. ( yeah icky analogy but easy to understand) lol
Just know what kind of guy he is and stay away from him. If you found out so easy who he is, he will find out who you are. No doubt.
Chalk it up to a loss and ignore the loser.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnd I needed to add that after he stood me up, I called him the next day to see if he had a valid excuse. He answers the phone, tells me he's on his way home and he would call me back. Never happened. After that I sent him a message telling him off. I know that should have pleased me. But it didn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): First of all that is a mess and I know it hurts especially because you thought you had a connection with this guy. I think you should consider what pay back will actually do? By doing something to hurt him do you really think he will somehow see the light and apologize or take back what he did? Besides he doesn't even know it was you so it's obviously nothing personal, who knows what happened to him the day you were supposed to meet. Besides, if he will do this to someone he doesn't know how do you think he would behave in a relationship. You probably wouldn't want someone with his character anyway. Perhaps by him not showing up he did you a favor, rather than later down the road you finding out he was an ass, now you know up front and you don't have to waste your precious time on him. Find someone else not everyone behaves like the guy who stood you up there are some really good guys out there, you just gotta be willing to take the chance.
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