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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Need some advice! My husband and i have been together for five years and married for two. When we first went into our relationship i was a completely trusting person. But overtime i seem to have fallen very jealous. My past two boyfriends before him did cheat but they werent even serious boyfriends so i still dont feel like they hurt me or anything. So that is why i dont think that has anything to do with my jealousy. Early in our relationship my husband would always comment on girls..all the time..and at first it wasnt a big deal to me...its just overtime it has taken a toll on me.. And about six months in i found stuff on his phone where he was talking to his ex. so that really hurt my feelings b/c i was under the impression they werent even speaking.. and the other thing that has really killed my trust is him lying about porn...he would turn me down and then when i went to bed he would "do it himself"...So now after having his baby and my body isnt where it used to be, my self esteem is shot and my trust in him is shot...how can i get that trust back? I want our marriage to work...Am i overreacting about this whole thing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2010): Please don't take this offensively but I think the problem is with you...not your husband.
You sound like you have a seriously low self esteem and I hate to say it but if your keep it up, you might just lose everything that you want to keep. It;s called alienating him.
My husband still keeps in contact with some of his ex's and it doesn't bother me. They are called ex's for a reason. And as for the porn, he IS a guy after all and men are very visual creatures and what is more visual than that.
Work on your own self esteem and when you start to see yourself as a sexy self confident woman it will drive your man wild :)
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