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30-35,
*aBie Ree
writes:Hey everybody! well..I'm so lost I don't know what to do!I have a boyfriend that is going to be 22 in july, I'm about to be 18 and I want to marry him, and I will as soon as I'm legal to get married. My parents don't like him all started because of this lady that was like upsest with him and she went up to my parents and told them alot of things that weren't true.After that my parents told me not to talk to him or they were going to send him to jail(well my mother told him that). But he went up to my mother and actually explained to her the situation he is the type of guy that doesn't smoke or drink. He makes me laugh, he puts a smile on my face when I'm down, he is everything I wished for and everything that I want. Me and him dated for 3 years before my parents found anything out, We have never had a big argument or fight before! I love him so much I just wish that my parents could see that..the only 2 persons that know bout me and him are his mother(wich she loves me ALOT!), and my grandmother. My grandmother tells us that we need to let them know that he needs to go talk to my father because my mother she don't understand but his mother also says the same thing and he says that he will go up to my father and talk to him at any time that he don't care he'll do anything but I tell him NO everytime because I'm scared that my father won't understand even when my father was with my mother her father didn't like him, but I'm just scare and don't know what to do Please HELP ME.......what do I do...?
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reader, cd206  +, writes (14 March 2007):
 Okay... first thing I want to ask you is who told you that what that woman said to your parents wasn't true. Was it the boyfriend? I'm not trying to imply that he was lying, just that the truth might have been bent slightly so you don't get hurt. I think that speaking to your father would come better from you than from him. As your father he has a duty to love you unconditionally. Tell him that your boyfriend wanted to speak to him but that you wanted to talk to him first to make him see how much you love him. He might want to speak to your boyfriend as well but unless he says he does I don't think your boyfriend should speak to him because it will cause more harm than good and may upset your dad. Once you're 18 your parents have no right to disapprove over who you date but this might be complicated if you still live at home but make it clear to them once you turn 18 that you intend to be with him and that it would mean a lot if they would make an effort for your sake.
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